Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
by not exercising your rights you are, in fact, waiving them......and that is never good.
things change over time.....people change over time.....if you find the whole concept of a sister wife so offensive then make sure that your preference/right to choose is protected from the get go.
if he doesn't have any such inclination then there should be no issue with you exercising the right and checking the box......
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
I wouldn't need a clause in a contract to exercise my right to divorce/walk away..
If hubby is head over heels with another girl I would honestly prefer him to be with her and just separate so I can try and find happiness myself.. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable trying to 'keep' him thru a contract..
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
I feel like there’s something big here that I’m missing so please excuse my ignorance…BUT
How does checking the box actually prevent the husband from marrying a 2nd wife if he’s really set on doing it? Let’s say you check the box…5 years later the husband tells you that he’s going to marry a 2nd wife…how does the having box checked directly play a role in offering “protection” for the 1st wife?
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
I'm not sure if this is the answer that you are looking for Paheli but some believe that it is not necessary for a man to obtain the first wife's permission before he marries another.......I think that checking the box provides the right of said wife to be aware of his impending action if not to allow/disallow it.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
^Muzna, technically he must** inform** her but he doesn’t need actual permission..
Of course it make things a million times easier if wife 1 is happy with it and gives her consent..
Some Muslim societies have made it an obligation to ask wife 1 to prevent all sorts of mess, drama etc. Secret marriages are another problem (many who do this end up leading a double life with a wife and kids that their families don’t know about )
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
I'm not sure if this is the answer that you are looking for Paheli but some believe that it is not necessary for a man to obtain the first wife's permission before he marries another.......I think that checking the box provides the right of said wife to be aware of his impending action if not to allow/disallow it..
Muzna, I guess what I'm trying to understand is what difference does it make when it comes to whether or not the box was checked if the husband is adamant about getting a 2nd wife. Are there any countries where the husband is legally prevented from getting married a 2nd time IF that box is checked? The 1st wife can let the husband know that she will not accept a 2nd marriage for him but she can do that by other means too (verbally, send him an e-mail, write a letter....you get the point).
I guess I'm missing the part about how checking the box in a nikah document provides any more protection/security as opposed to a woman who simply tells her fiance by other means that she will never agree to a 2nd marriage for him.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
If conditions can make relationships work, we would have been signing whole constitutions as marriage contracts.
Checking or not-checking the box might only have symbolic or perhaps legal implications once guy has given it a serious though already, whats the point?
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
I don't think it has anything to do with "preventing" a guy that has made up his mind......for that man there are always going to be ways to circumvent the system.
Again, I'm not sure and I'm speaking just from common sense, but I assume that the box is there for a reason and the most logical reason would be to show the "terms/conditions" of the existing marriage contract. While he may not need her "express permission" he will likely need to inform her (as someone mentioned above) and the person executing/solemnizing the second nikah may/should ask to see the terms of the first. That's when this document would become important IMHO.
In the event that the box is checked and the nikah is revealed to the first wife, she may opt to leave the marriage and she will then be allowed certain privileges rather than having to walk away.
In the event that the box is not checked she may still leave the marriage but likely will have to give up some of those privileges.
please double check.....I'm only typing from assumption here......
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
OK…this makes sense. IF this is how the system is set up in the country where the couple will be living…then I can see why women would insist on that.
For anyone living in the U.S. though…if they’re truly concerned about their husband taking on a 2nd wife (or cheating in general)…it’s a MUCH better idea to just get a iron-clad pre-nup with a infidelity clause.
Let’s say you check the box…5 years later the husband tells you that he’s going to marry a 2nd wife…how does the having box checked directly play a role in offering “protection” for the 1st wife?
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