Ok, so i have four sisters whose ages range between late twenties and mid-thirties. My mum is going crazy trying to find suitable rishtay for them but the problem is 1) there aren't many decent rishtay around (my sisters are all degree educated and established in careers) 2) the rishtay that my mum does find my sisters manage to reject them without giving due consideration or for what i consider silly reasons.
my question is how can i get them to be more open minded and less picky? their reasons for rejecting these rishtay are things like height mismatch, lives too far away, pakistani men are losers, if their mums are looking for their rishta they obviously can't find someone themselves and so must have something wrong with them. blah blah blah.
i can kind of understand some of their negativity as there are so many horrer stories out there regarding the rishta process and how people lie and stuff before the wedding but at this rate they will all remain single!
Women usually get a chance to pursue higher education more then men because men are required to support households as soon as they graduate with their bachelor's degrees. Thats a fact. Ive seen it and know it. Your sisters are going to have to either find someone themselves who fits their bill or lower their standards to a lowly bachelor's-degree-educated guy with a decent job.
Height mismatch I can understand sometimes if the difference is big. I get it.
Lives too far away depends on the goals of the individual...some men move. My BIL moved from Alabama to Chicago. It happens all the time and continues to so unless they try...they're staying single.
As much bashing as we do on thsi forum about men...Pakistani men are not losers. They take care of their families and are taught responsibility...more then what I can say for a lot of other groups.
Your last reason is THE most ridiculous of all. My mom found my husband...does that mean there is something wrong with me or him? Nope. I just prefer it that way...less work for me to do.
Muslims have this really neat system of arranged marriages that we just take for granted or not care too much for or even look down upon. Yes, it can be abused but if done right...its the best thing for a girl to take advantage of!
You dont have to worry about finding someone to date. Thats annoying too...and just too much work in my opinion.
You dont have to date them for a year to know everything about them...I can usually figure someone out in a few meetings and know whether or not I want to be associated with them beyond that.
You dont have to hint at someone to propose...waste of time and energy.
Your parents ask ALL of the uncomfortable questions that otherwise might be considered too personal until month 8!
You can get to know the guy as much as you want before marriage with your parents' consent.
Your families are happy, you are happy, you can enjoy yourself...I mean come ON people! Its SOOOOO easy.
Why be so picky and lose an opportunity to be happy? If you overlook someone's bad habit and help them change it...who knows? You might find yourself the perfect guy.