Islamically, staying single through choice isn't an option. Marriage is obligatory. Apart from that. even though my marriage is far from a bed of roses I still believe in the instituition of marriage plus having kids brings you so much joy. I don't want my sisters to miss out on all this.
I totally agree with this !! But i tried to give a reason without bringing islam in it !!! But nonetheless on the point !!!
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I do not disagree with that, however on the same token i do disagree as well, it is not a TABOO but a necessity becaused sooner or later that urge or desire does arise and that leads to things..... and thus marriage is not only for financial stability only !!
I wished we didn't have to be depended on this (emotional/personal) "stability" issue.
we are good financially - but "stability" ("the needs to be with company") - kills it!
I wished we didn't have to be depended on this (emotional/personal) "stability" issue.
we are good financially - but "stability" ("the needs to be with company") - kills it!
Unfortunately everything has a reason, the everything is in place to avoid the commiting of other deeds.
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yep its a sunnah..but a strongly suggested one that completes half your deen.
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being single is enjoyable till a certain age after that it becomes annoying. our girls r trying to copy western ladies but even western females can't liv alone esp after 30. they need someone in form of bf or partner n many prefer to marry at older ages. desire for partner n kids does kick in at some point of life
the thing is marriage is a compromise. modern girls know nothing abt compromise. they want readymade food served in a plate to them. they r not willing to sacrifice in a relationship but suffer emotionally in later age or marry an old, divorced guy with kids.
advice ur sisters that only serious things in guys should not b forgiven but lil things should be ignored otherwise when u come to the point where u r dying to marry but ppl find something abt u n reject u due to age.
However u really can't force a person to marry someone. life teaches us our lessons.
Ok, so i have four sisters whose ages range between late twenties and mid-thirties. My mum is going crazy trying to find suitable rishtay for them but the problem is 1) there aren't many decent rishtay around (my sisters are all degree educated and established in careers) 2) the rishtay that my mum does find my sisters manage to reject them without giving due consideration or for what i consider silly reasons.
my question is how can i get them to be more open minded and less picky? their reasons for rejecting these rishtay are things like height mismatch, lives too far away, pakistani men are losers, if their mums are looking for their rishta they obviously can't find someone themselves and so must have something wrong with them. blah blah blah.
i can kind of understand some of their negativity as there are so many horrer stories out there regarding the rishta process and how people lie and stuff before the wedding but at this rate they will all remain single!
Women usually get a chance to pursue higher education more then men because men are required to support households as soon as they graduate with their bachelor's degrees. Thats a fact. Ive seen it and know it. Your sisters are going to have to either find someone themselves who fits their bill or lower their standards to a lowly bachelor's-degree-educated guy with a decent job.
Height mismatch I can understand sometimes if the difference is big. I get it.
Lives too far away depends on the goals of the individual...some men move. My BIL moved from Alabama to Chicago. It happens all the time and continues to so unless they try...they're staying single.
As much bashing as we do on thsi forum about men...Pakistani men are not losers. They take care of their families and are taught responsibility...more then what I can say for a lot of other groups.
Your last reason is THE most ridiculous of all. My mom found my husband...does that mean there is something wrong with me or him? Nope. I just prefer it that way...less work for me to do.
Muslims have this really neat system of arranged marriages that we just take for granted or not care too much for or even look down upon. Yes, it can be abused but if done right...its the best thing for a girl to take advantage of!
You dont have to worry about finding someone to date. Thats annoying too...and just too much work in my opinion.
You dont have to date them for a year to know everything about them...I can usually figure someone out in a few meetings and know whether or not I want to be associated with them beyond that.
You dont have to hint at someone to propose...waste of time and energy.
Your parents ask ALL of the uncomfortable questions that otherwise might be considered too personal until month 8!
You can get to know the guy as much as you want before marriage with your parents' consent.
Your families are happy, you are happy, you can enjoy yourself...I mean come ON people! Its SOOOOO easy.
Why be so picky and lose an opportunity to be happy? If you overlook someone's bad habit and help them change it...who knows? You might find yourself the perfect guy.
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false expectations of marriage is one of the leading cause of divorce these days. i'm not saying this'll happen to your sisters God forbid, but they should be a little open minded. it'll help with the rishta process and it'll be better for them in the long run also.
I'm not saying they should get married to any ol' lucha lafangha, .
no personal attacks please
Muslims have this really neat system of arranged marriages that we just take for granted or not care too much for or even look down upon. Yes, it can be abused but if done right...its the best thing for a girl to take advantage of!
arranged marriage is not a muslim concept or monopoly.
false expectations of marriage is one of the leading cause of divorce these days. i'm not saying this'll happen to your sisters God forbid, but they should be a little open minded. it'll help with the rishta process and it'll be better for them in the long run also.
word to tha motha'
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^ Fine, but its still awesome!
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if guys like nammi start saying they dun wana marry n by u i mean straight n educated n probably not a pevert...long live the club!
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Simple: show them a supremely awesome rishta who rejects them hard, take them down a few notches. Evil, but it works to a degree. Too many guys and girls have an inflated sense of self-worth with no basis for it.
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i know someone who too has 4 sisters, she’s always over at my mum’s place (they’re friends) telling em about the difficulty she is facing with the help of her mum to get them married, they’ve declined rishtas in the hundred’s. They’re all the same seeking the perfect husband, god forbid should the guy walk with a limp. 
Anyway they’re all in their late 30’s, early 40’s, that people no longer wish to speak to em, because of their stupid demands.
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What are their demands?
I find this quite amusing, everyone should be picky when it comes to marriage. I think being picky is actually being open-minded, this thread is weird.
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being picky is open minded 
heard that first time.
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People should stop worrying about marriage and the future and enjoy the present. Too many live in the future to find the miss the present and miss what they have with them. Enjoy what you have, live life to the fullest and you will get what you deserve.
Kismat is a simple concept we all tend to forget. There is supposedly a plan for all of us out there. If something is not happening we should just be patient and vigilant.
Also for those who complain women don't find the right men, there are two or three guppans who are very happily married. They are also the sanest out of you lot.
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my sister was like that too ( esp since she is a surgeon) but then i introduced her to a friend of mine who is a european-american he was very much like my sister in habits and personality.He converted to islam and they married.
so advise to your sisters think outside the box and other than pakiatni nationalities
If it did, the club wouldn't exist.
that explains why you are so bitter .... or maybe thats the cause