Re: • SinGle & MarrieD •
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A Good Friend Once Told Me,**
**“Don’t Be A Woman Who Needs A Man,” “Be A Woman A Man Needs!”

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Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love 

Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!
Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day…
Smell good!
Do not lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help!
Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights
Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.
Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
Tell him he’s the best husband ever.
When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.
If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, inshaAllah.
If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet.You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
Learn to make his favorite dish.
Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.
Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.
Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.
Brush your hair, everyday.
Don’t forget to do laundry.
Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.
Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)
Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.
Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.
Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …” (thats a killer!)
Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!
If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time
sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel
Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.