This is from Reddit. A single guy quit his job and traveled the country interviewing couples about what makes a relationship successful. Couples were selected across all demographics, including arranged marriage. Interesting read.
Note: A Reddit AMA (ask me anything) is a thread where people in unique situations, or celebrities, are asked questions by the users.
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Thank you for sharing this…
All the themes mentioned in the article are relevantly important for successful relationship. To me, self love is the most important!
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:nono:
In the spirit of mod free month
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If you are in a happy marriage self love is not necessary or required! :D
Don't mock self love. It's an activity with someone I care a lot about.
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When I say self love, I am referring to having my own identity and not becoming how others want me to behave.... It means not losing my personality, my intelligence, or my skill-set. It means to balance out give and take not to just give give and give. Once you know how to truly love yourself then you are able to love other people around you too with sincerity.
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^That's what Ghost meant too....own identity n stuff.
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Err..yeah
But you are right BSB, a lot of people go into relationships thinking it will fix their issues. Desis, of course, take it to a whole 'notha level by deluding themselves into thinking that their son/daughter will shape up once married, effectively ruining two lives.
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this has greatly impacted my feels.
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Err..yeah
But you are right BSB, a lot of people go into relationships thinking it will fix their issues. Desis, of course, take it to a whole 'notha level by deluding themselves into thinking that their son/daughter will shape up once married, effectively ruining two lives.
Can you elaborate on the "issues" that will cause the downfall of a relationship. All humans have flaws but which ones specifically need to be worked out before entering into a life partner relationship? With marriage that trust one that was mentioned in the link is where you do have to put all your eggs in one basket when it comes to another flawed human being, I would put my trust in a person that I think is a certain way or hope he is.
If i look at the guy that I was hoping would be the one, he ended up being a total fraud. He seemed honest and I thought I could trust him by what I learned about him but how much can you really know about a person in those beginning stages.
Whatever happened to the concept of tread slowly. Does it also apply in a marriage/lifelong committed relationship?
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ok but who even says "self love" and not giggle like a pre pubescent kid?
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Sweetif, writing posts without making a point
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this is ghost’s thread. you don’t have to make a point in his threads. that’d be pointless. 
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Driving wedges eh, never works.
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i like potato wedges. and chips too. 
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Its like you’re not even trying anymore 
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Stop ruining my awesome thread.
Single guy toured the country interviewing successful couples
Did someone say potato wedges?!? 
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No, we said bhindi gosht. :(
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maybe the single guy had potato wedges with sweet chilli sauce on his tour!!!!!
