Marriage seems to be a greater concern to desis than to Americans. But after a certain age people start considering it. Below is a great piece of advice for all.
MOTIVATIONAL NOTE
When you fall in lust or fall in love and ignore all the red flags waving to warn you, the fall will make you black and blue. A strong relationship happens when you can relate on more than one level. Seeking loving and lasting relationships is a real challenge when you are too immature, needy, controlling, unable to commit, too young, desperate or
naive. Don’t play with your heart. Don’t play with someone else’s heart.
Being single until you get your life, head and heart together is not a bad
thing. Get to your know your goals and your own soul before you start looking for your soulmate.
In my book “Success Gems” I write “don’t take someone to the altar to alter them.” Changing people is God’s business. If you work on being whole, fulfilled, busy, grateful, optimistic and healthy in your mind, emotions, body and spirit … then you’ll look up one day and be surprised to learn that you didn’t have to chase after Mr. or Ms Right.
You will attract like a magnet that which you have become and what you are seeking and what you deserve.
The sex is over rated and the companionship underrated. People think marriage and think kids first and foremost. How come they dont think friend or split the bills in two first?
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*Originally posted by cat-woman: *
So Mr Frauds you were saying, the benefits of a wholesome marriage are...
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where do I begin..lets just say I have been married 6 years now, and it has been great alhumdulillah.
but I suppose that it hasd to be a good match, the people involved need to be caring and work through thick and thin, fun as well as differences with cool heads.
Its not easy by any means, it takes work, just like anything else...but it is defintely far away from the doom and gloom many seem to attribute to marriages based on failed/failing marriages, improper matches etc that they see.
where do I begin..lets just say I have been married 6 years now, and it has been great alhumdulillah.
but I suppose that it hasd to be a good match, the people involved need to be caring and work through thick and thin, fun as well as differences with cool heads.
Its not easy by any means, it takes work, just like anything else...but it is defintely far away from the doom and gloom many seem to attribute to marriages based on failed/failing marriages, improper matches etc that they see.
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You are right, it has to be a good match for it to work. It does take lots of work. Many people would give it that all wrong, all bad imagin, some would would tell you oh nothings like it. But I believe that if there is a good match, and the 2 put lots of effort into it, and handle many things that life throws at them together and not let many things or people get in their way then yes it can and will work. But some people just give up too ez.
