Sincere People

[parisbynight]

Re: Sincere People

you might marry someone on the same page, but what are the guarantee you will remian on the same page after few year , in terms of career..

and personally i dont see why living and cooking for in laws has become among the desis in the west.. dont you help out at home..doesnt your mother cook for the whole family despite working… (i dont mean your mother litterally but mothers in general)

i work full time and yet come home and cook…if i can do so at my parents then what is the pb doing so at your inlaws..its your house after all your not doing anyone a favor..your just working and cooking in your own house…be it at inlaws,at your parents or your and ur husband house…

@eastern11

Actually no, in my case I made sure that the guy was not a workaholic and did not work late hours to get ahead etc. I wanted an educated man with a masters degree but not someone who scrimped on family life just to get ahead. I was prepared to live on less but wanted more family time And I was the same way with myself. Even though I was in middle management, I did not want to switch family life for promotions so it’s ok to make sure you get a spouse who’s on the same page. Of course it’s ok if both partners want to spend long hours at work trying to excel in their profession, but it works if both are on the same page.

And regarding people who want their spouse to work, sure it’s their right, but they should make use to marry someone on the same page. There are men who don’t care either way, and there are many women who would be their ideal. Also, regarding goras, they also are not forced to live with extended families and cook for them, nor provide dowries and phenawy joras. If they decide to live with in laws it’s a joint decision and neither is the gora’s wife supposed to be 100% in charge of cooking despite working as many hours as the husband because this is what we do.