sincere advice

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Re: sincere advice

@Theorist

Of course not! It’s not the same. Her life has not even begun yet. How can you say she has loose morals when to me it seems like an honest screwup? She doesn’t sound conniving to me. She admits her mistake and is ready to face consequences. Someone with loose morals will find a way to make it look like somebody else’s fault. It just sounds like she has not had much exposure to boys/men. Even after her nikkah, she was not able to properly meet/communicate with her husband. That’s a very big deal! She seems to have had a very sheltered life. Don’t most desi girls?

My only issue is with people throwing the words “loose morals” for something that seems very innocent.

Morals don’t just include refraining from slutting around. Integrity, keeping your word, commitment also are moral values. If this is an honest screw up, she should own her mistake of entering a marriage, coz that was best available at the time and then walking out on a better deal. She should tell her parents and the guy, she involved with another man, return his gifts, pay him any expenses he incurred and start over.

I said the same thing in another thread, where a man wanted to divorce his yet to arrive wife from Pakistan and marriage had not been consummated. Here http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/635181-marriage-in-jeopardy-need-advice-2.html