Sick of her Dual Personality!

[queen_24]

Re: Sick of her Dual Personality!

@gudiaali

so OP do you have kids? if you do then you can put up the same show as your Jhetani does and say to your kid in front of her ke “Tai ami will buy you this and will buy you that”, " Tai ami aap tou hamarey liye chocoaltes layi hi nahi" Lols.

On a serious note, it seems that your Jhetani is a typical greedy kinda woman and you are a typical over possessive woman.
it is not correct of her if she expects you and your husband to be at a giving end and wants her to be at the receiving end always. btw you didn’t mention if she or her husband give you guys any presents, gifts when you are here or when you leave back to UK, do they bring home for you things like food stuff, little sweet treats etc when you are here. well if they do, then i think at least they are also doing their bit to keep a balance.

on giving away your desktop to them that you say is yours, so if you bought it from your own money and you don’t want to give it away to them its your choice but if it was bought by your husband and if he has no qualms of giving it to his brother and his own nephew the ni think it was not correct of you to tell him to reverse his decision when you are not even using it. you see you have entered into thsi family and into your husband’s life later and the relationship, the feelings your husband shares with his brother and other siblings cant be kept aside. who knows how many times your Jheth has compromised on his things since childhood for his younger brother(who is now your husband). Elder siblings always make compromises, sacrifices for their younger siblings and are normally showering them gifts, presents,treats. it does change for some after they get married for what so ever reasons but the pint is that your husband might have not forgotten all those favors made by his brother back in time and just wants to do his bit of returning it when he agreed to give away a desktop(a used obsoleted one in this case).

on your room thing, it was not correct of your in-laws if they have used your things you kept inside the room without asking you. it is a moral duty to ask the person the things belongs to if you ever want to use it. But i think that you should not be so over possessive on the room thing saying it is your room. if the house is built by your FIL and he has not transferred the parts of it to any of his offspring yet, then technically the house is your FIL/MIL’s and every part of it too. and they can decide which room to be used by which of their kids. you cant argue that it has become YOUR room forever if it was given to you and your husband to live in it. now since you come here for just few months they can use that room in any way they want. They do hand the keys over to you of that room when you come here, right? every house has some space limitations with years passing by and families growing so don’t expect they will forever keep the room reserved for you.

No gudiaali, I dont have kids yet. If even I had, I would never do that… because if she has broughtup her kid so badtameez I cant do the same just to let my kid compete with him.

I am not a typical over possessive woman and if you read the incident above, it will clear a lot of things to you for what I did was justifiable.

No, they are not on the giving part.. a very VERY small example, last night, she cooked some aalu qeema and she knew I dont eat qeema. It was decided in the morning and she told me aaj raat aalu qeema pakay ga and I said aw… chalo main kebab khalungi (she was also making some shami kabab for freezing purpose).. she said, kahan hain kabab and i said, aap bana to rahi hain… she said, oh, haan, ok… and in the evening when I was in the kitchen to have evening tea, her husband appeared and said it loud, ye kabab thoray chotay chotay banana ye mere bete ke school lejanay k liye bann rahay hain!! CAN YOU IMAGINE THAT?? CAN YOU?

Esi giri hui baaten sunke maira dil dukhta hay.

LOL, the relationship my hubby and his brother shares is just a one way traffic. NO, my jeth never did ANYTHING for my hubby. My hubby tells me. Even being the elder brother, he never helped my husband anyway… instead he always asked for the amount…money…stuff. Even when my hubby asked him to buy something for himself, my jeth would buy and say “baqi pese mere” which literally I never minded because “I” think ke bhai bhai hain, koi baat nahin…but did my JETH ever thought of it? NO.. This last time, when I asked him to buy something I gave him 1000 rupees and he said, my product costed 1050… only 50 rupees difference, and instead asking me to leave the amount, he asked me for it, which is fine, hisaab hisaab hay… but because I didnt have loose money and I asked him to wait for 2-3days, he kept on asking me EVERY SINGLE DAY, ab day bhi do pese, kabhi bachhay ko bhejte ke chachi ko kaho 50 rupay deden… kabhi biwi ko ke Queen, wo pese maang rahay hain tumse, tum ne khullay karwaliye?? Wo din aur ajka din, I never asked him to buy anything!

He never compromised for ANY thing..
And no, the room I live in, was constructed on the time of marriage and my hubby spent his amount on that!! so its genuinely my room! and Ofcourse I WILL expect that it will be reserved for me unless I dont give it away.

Why? rehne ke liye ye ghar paraya? aur kaam kernay k liye? apna samjho? yeh kesi discrimination hay??