Re: Sick of her Dual Personality!
Why do I feel that you haven’t read my posts thoroughly?? Because you haven’t really. Its not you who have been living with them from years but I.. and I cant write every single thing here and discuss so openly. I have been seeing for a long time now how she has been trying to give me tensions.
Tell me.. how would you feel if you are living with someone, someone who says she genuinely is your bestestest friend and (lets suppose your husband lives in another country) on the other hand she instead sharing how uncomfortable she is feeling about any certain thing, she calls your husband and complains about you.. Where you are unaware that which kind of KICHRI she has planning for you at your back and acting the sweetest person on earth too??
Again to mention (which I pretty annoyed now for explaining again and again), I am not a materialistic Person, I am a more GIVING person, if someone lends me a penny, I try to lend her a pound! BUT! I hate when they try to act clever and extra-efficient!
I would have no problem giving it away only she could keep her words, sharing her problem with me as she declares what kind of woman she is, than making her husband call to my husband only to disturb him and leave the impact that maybe its me who is troubling her to use the PC.
About the child.. seriously! dont say anything about him, You dont know him and I dont want to disclose too many things here!
Shararat aur badtameezi main zameen aasmaan ka farq hay!!
and remember one thing, Qabar ka haal murdaa hi jaanta hay!!
just to make you understand through one of the incident happened in very beginning of my marriage.
I used to wear my Gold Bangles which were gifted to me by my brother. One day when I was making dough I put it off and kept them a side. I went back to my room and realised when it was 5 to 6 hours late. I ran to kitchen and didnt find them there. I also could not recall where I left them… Either did I put it off or not.. if I did, where did i? I checked the whole kitchen, my room, and every single possible place. I was really worried. (it also happened to me few days back before this incidence and that time I left my ring on the microwave which my jeth gave me after 3 days when he came to know I was searching for it and said, cheezen rakh ke mat bhoola karo, main nain chupai thi tumhe sabaq dene ke liye..ainda dheyan rakhna) so because it had happened previously, I went to my jeth and asked if this time he is again doing that and he made an issue out of it, MAIN KOI CHOR NAHIN HUN…blah blah… it was a sick answer for me because my question from him was so obvious..
My jethani told me, you sit in my room, you can check if you want to, you might have put it off on my dressing too… so when she was there, I saw over her dressing but I wasn’t liking the idea of checking her drawers thoroughly so I just checked roughly, her bag was there too so i just checked behind that..and again roughly and said, no bhabhi its not there.
When I went to my room, my hubby called and said, what I am upto, I told him everything and he said, yeah you should search for it but make sure you dont create mess… you dont know how things work in inlaws… I was so so worried and told him what his brother just said for which my hubby scolded me and said, tumhe uss se poochna hi nahin chahye tha… it was so innocent of me, because firsly those are really early days of my marriage and us ghar ke har fard koi main apna saga samajhti thi to laga ke mera dukh unka dukh…kher mujhay rona aaya and I said, ok you come home and again we will make it to find my bangles. When I disconnected the line, my MIL and this Jethani was almost around and asked the reason I was crying and because I always took her as my sister I hugged her and said, Bhabhi, I am sorry if I made any of you hurt but I am really worried that my heavy gold bangles are lost and I am disturbing you people, for which she said, nahin dear aise koi baat nahin hay, ofcourse koi chhoti moti cheez nahin hay, I asked, bhabhi aapko kuch bura to nahin laga naa… aap ne kaha aapki dressing p check karloon to mene dekh liye and she said, chal pagli, paagal ho rahi hay kiya, tum mere room main bethti ho to ho sakta hay tumne wahan utaray hon aur main nain hi to tumhe kaha tha ke check karlo, I said, aaur aapke husband ne jo kaha, main apne ghar k kisi banday ko chor kehsakti hun kiya? main nain unse isliye pocha ke last time bhi unho ne ring chupa li thi so I thought, is time bhi unhe ghussa aaya ho..aur unho ne chupa li hon, she said, pagal ho gai larki, aisa kuch nahin hay, unki baat ka bura na maano, its alright and things then cleared.
My hubby came back and together we started searching again after a lot of efforts, I found it from a biscuit’s box, seemed like bangles were slipped into it. I remember when I came to check in the evening and checked the biscuit’s box, I didnt see them there but I still said nothing to them about them for what happened later was a disaster.
The same night we had to attend a wedding… while I was finished with the meal, I didnt find my hubby around, I turned back to see where is he and in some seconds I found him very far standing with my jithani and listening to her.. I realised, she has said something to him. All the way to home my hubby was quiet. When I entered my room, he kept his wallet and stuff on the table and said, change your dress and come in N’s room (N is my Jithani’s initial). I followed the instructions and when I entered her room, my hubby started yelling at me, can you imagine the way he yelled?? (yeah it might be shocking to hear for most of you here because everyone knows how much we love eachother and how much I respect him but alhamdulillah now my husband has totally changed and accept what all happened initially were just his mistakes so I love him more now).
He said, how the hell you dared to check her bag and stuff… and I was like, blank…he said, N has told me that you checked her stuff and the bag actually that you touched belonged to her sister, so you checked her sister’s bag and her drawers and stuff…he kept on yelling on me and she was like, O bhai rehne den, O bhai chalen maaf karden… and I was crying like hell…even right now I have tears in my eyes mentioning it, jis tarha usne mairay shohor ke kaan bharay, aag lagayi, apni ghatya soch un tak pohnchai…wo sab unbearable tha, my hubby said, ab main tum se jabhi baat kerunga jab tum iss se maafi mango gi aur iski behen se bhi jakay maafi mango gi… (jo ke mujhse 3,4 saal younger hay) so just to please my hubby I apologized her and the other morning I went to her house and apologized from her sister too… for which that young girl said, aapi ka to dimagh kharab ho gaya hay… pagal ho gayeen hain woh, kiya ho aapne check kerliya, mujhay to kuch bura nahin laga. but bus main wapas aa gayee. when my hubby wokeup, he asked me, maafi maang li and then I told him yeah, aur jab jaa ke unho ne mujhse baat ki. but after then I didnt speak to him happily for 3 days. I obeyed him, listened to him but didnt pay him back the love because I was totally shattered because why he didnt give me a chance to explain. My hubby was literally embarrassed the day third and apologized… he could feel how hurt was I because he knew I cant live without speaking to him for a single minute, without hugging him single day…NEVER! and when he saw me so cold towards him… he came to know, ke main waqai bohat zada hurt hui thi…!
And how sharp is my jethani, when I hugged her, cryed along her and said, ke apko koi bat buri lagi ho to bataden, to wo uswaqt bhi to baat ko clear ker sakti thi, but udher she said pagla gayee larki and on the other hand she fed my hubby and said she didnt like how I checked her room and bag.
So her cheez ke peechay aik waja hoti hay dear… PC is a really tiny stuff for me to give away…insaan agar achha ho to uske liye kuch bhi kernay ka dil chahta hay… but agar meri jithani jesa ho to… khud soch lo!
Thats why I made my husband change the decision because she actually played the same game and apni baat manwana chahi jese pehle manwa ke mujhay scold kerwaya tha…but she is certainly mistaken ke ab wo ho sakta hay… I wanted to make her clear that now, she cant play these typical star plus walay games and that, my husband will do what “I” want him to do. Uski baat mannay main koi harj tha nahin magar jab when she will notice that she’s being obeyed, she will keep playing the same games and keep calling me husband and annoy him to make him do what she wants to! which will not gonna be happen anymore!