Sick and tired of my husband cheating

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Sick and tired of my husband cheating

@khattichic ... In no way I am saying that divorce is a death sentence. It's not. HoweVer circumstances vary for each woman. I know of a couple family friends who were not happy in their marriages. The guys weren't cheaters however they couldn't get good jobs. They came from Pakistan and couldn't settle down here. One of them is a professional and had very little issues. She was supporting her husband and separating from him wasn't a issue for her. She is raising 3 girls on her own but of course has strong family support. She owns several franchises. So income wasn't a issue for her. The other one didn't complete college and didn't have the means to support her children. Her family was overwhelmed after a few months. So she chose to stay in that marriage. Basically there are alot of variables involved. Khattichic you are a strong and self made woman - from your posts. So god forbid if your hubby loses his marbles...then you have options. we don't know what the OP financial situation. Sometimes other family don't want additional burdens. So the ppl who are advising her to kick her wandering husband to the curb won't be there for her.

There is a serial on humtv called shab e zindagi or have been several well portrayed serials on this subject. it takes a strong woman to raise her Children alone. It is a daunting task in no uncertain terms.

This being said she should become strong and not be a doormat. He husband probably thinks she has nowhere to go so he can indulge himself. Have his cake and eat it too. She needs to develop more backbone and have more self worth. Does he have elders? Is he handsome? Bc the dude seems find woman who are willing to risk their reputation for married father.

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Twinkle I agree with your points...I think we're both arguing the same point but from different angles.

I agree with in that I am strong and very capable of taking care of myself and my children if the need ever arose, however, I've also been blessed to have had the opportunity to volunteer and work with organizations where I've met women who had NOTHING, (money, education, support, family etc) and still managed to make a life for themselves and support their children after divorce. It's hard yes, but not impossible.

I don't wish divorce on anyone, believe me. But sometimes, it really is in the best interest of all involved. That's all I'm trying to say.

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Only Shareen knows the answer to this. She has to ask her herself what she wants or can manage .but def would say to her don't expect others to be there for her. Unfortunately that's how the world is.

Twinkle I agree with your points...I think we're both arguing the same point but from different angles.

I agree with in that I am strong and very capable of taking care of myself and my children if the need ever arose, however, I've also been blessed to have had the opportunity to volunteer and work with organizations where I've met women who had NOTHING, (money, education, support, family etc) and still managed to make a life for themselves and support their children after divorce. It's hard yes, but not impossible.

I don't wish divorce on anyone, believe me. But sometimes, it really is in the best interest of all involved. That's all I'm trying to say.
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Shahreen has spoken. She already made her decision a couple pages back. And she's living with it. She knows the consequences. Leave her be, people.

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how do you know she might not yet change her mind if someone can write the perfect post that reaches her?

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Seems to me that it's not a perfectly constructed post, but rather an unfavorable change in the current situation that will lead to a change of mind.

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Only Shareen knows the answer to this. She has to ask her herself what she wants or can manage .but def would say to her don't expect others to be there for her. Unfortunately that's how the world is. There are plenty of widows and divorcees that manage alone and do a great job.

Twinkle I agree with your points...I think we're both arguing the same point but from different angles.

I agree with in that I am strong and very capable of taking care of myself and my children if the need ever arose, however, I've also been blessed to have had the opportunity to volunteer and work with organizations where I've met women who had NOTHING, (money, education, support, family etc) and still managed to make a life for themselves and support their children after divorce. It's hard yes, but not impossible.

I don't wish divorce on anyone, believe me. But sometimes, it really is in the best interest of all involved. That's all I'm trying to say.
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Only Shareen knows the answer to this. She has to ask her herself what she wants or can manage .but def would say to her don't expect others to be there for her. Unfortunately that's how the world is. There are plenty of widows and divorcees that manage alone and do a great job.

Twinkle I agree with your points...I think we're both arguing the same point but from different angles.

I agree with in that I am strong and very capable of taking care of myself and my children if the need ever arose, however, I've also been blessed to have had the opportunity to volunteer and work with organizations where I've met women who had NOTHING, (money, education, support, family etc) and still managed to make a life for themselves and support their children after divorce. It's hard yes, but not impossible.

I don't wish divorce on anyone, believe me. But sometimes, it really is in the best interest of all involved. That's all I'm trying to say.
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