Re: Sick and tired of my husband cheating
Wow Saadia. Who is twisting words now? Maybe you should not have deleted your post (or I should have quoted it) so that I could see too how I’m making you look stupid. I’m sorry you feel that way because it’s certainly not my intent.
Yes, I have been through terrible times which why I speak up when I have a view that someone else may not…that of a child who has lived through a bad marriage and parents’ divorce. And STILL I advocate it as a last resort after all other avenues have been exhausted. But, and this is a big one, I will never look down upon divorce as something shameful or as permanent black mark against a women or her children because it’s NOT!
A marriage is a contract between man and women. There are certain terms that must be met on BOTH ends for that contract to be upheld and if EITHER person cannot abide by those terms there is no shame in breaking that contract for the betterment of all. You can argue with me until you’re blue in the face but you and I both know that the ridiculous stigma and haaawwww haaiiiii’s of our culture over the “D” word are very much the reason women like the OP are starting threads like this.
If man cannot keep his nazar to himself, cannot love and cherish his wife and be a solid example of morals and deen for his children, IMO he doesn’t deserve to be married . And any children in a marriage like that deserve better than to have to witness that baghairity. (and the same goes for a skanky or philandering wife).