Sick and tired of my husband cheating

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Re: Sick and tired of my husband cheating

@SaadiaB

Just coz some of you witnessed a trouble marriage with your parents, doesnt mean all marriages are the same if troubled and have to end with divorce. I guess a lot of know about the other side of the coin. what I gathered by her post that her husband is a good father that the only issue that she has is that he gets attracted to other females very easily. For this the Op should work with her husband and maybe try to spice up her marriage life. maybe he needs romance at home., when we have kids we forget that we have a husband wife relationship instead we concentrate on being mom and dad.

as someome wrote before she needs to get out, meet ppl, go and visit places, do a course, learn something new, join gym and start loving her self, if she finds herself attractive, and looks fresh, then her husband will not look beyond her, not that i am saying she might not be attractive.

so instead of jumping to divorce as some ppl are saying, first try to work it out… see if you find a way to get to his heart again. another thing is that men think that their wifes are allways there, ghar ki murgi daal barbar, so if she

is hard to get, like if she is busy witherself and he has to conquer her again, he will pay attention to her and not other females.

Nobody is blindly telling her to divorce. Nor is anyone making light of the situation and saying divorce is the only option. Some of us are merely pointing out that sometimes it may be in the best interest of the children to not witness unhappy parents who argue, don’t love, trust or respect each other. It has ramifications that will be felt years later when those children grow up and become adults themselves.

We can only advise based upon the given information, so when a person comes and says her husband is a chronic cheater, has given her multiple reasons to believe he’s being unfaithful and is not even willing to admit they there is a problem, then I’m sorry, but I don’t agree with “ignoring it for the children’s sake”.

I totally agree with you that the OP should exhaust all remedies and solutions before thinking about ending her marriage. It’s not a decision to make based on momentary emotions however I’m amazed that our community still thinks of divorce as an automatic death sentence that will render women useless and immobile for life.