Despite a bold online personality, I suppose, I am quite shy in real life. Still hold the same beliefs, etc, but in real life, I always find it awkward making that first step of extending friendship or starting a conversation. After that step, its all uphill, and I can easily get comfortable.
But what do you say to someone you don’t know? I am always at a loss for conversation material and somehow lapse back into the “how’s the weather” talk.
Its so pathetic, but whatever. Any ideas for good starting conversational material?
That initial covo can be quite difficult for some. Once you start talking to them more frequently..... each convo gets a bit more easier and you start to feel more relaxed around them.
AE: it doesn’t work for some reason. i find that it really depends on the otehr person as well. like i know this girl…and usually i meet her at some social gathering or something, and she’s there w ith her whole family…her younger and older sis…and her nephew. and everytime i try to talk to her…like she doesn’t have anything to say to me. too busy with her sister and nephew and wat not. it’s like…err…hello?!? and then my mom bugs me to talk with her
but some people who are naturally out going you end up finding some common ground real quickly and makes things easier. but yea…it’s the first step that’s hard.
PCG >> hmm..... talk about some hot news thats going on these days with strangers.. like... war in lebanon..... um..... august 14..... hmm... and many more...... once the conversation starts... u can talk about it for hours or many minutes at least..
Well, I'm a very shy person in the real world too...and even at work there are days when I don't speak much...and the friends I've made usually they had to make the first move (I was too shy to say something). Anyways, now a day's I've been giving it a try- after the usual "so what this weather" sometimes I ask "What do you do" usually this will get the converation going, or I may ask "Where did you go to school" And if it's somone international (non-desi) I'll ask them "where r u orginally from (but I always stay away from politics and generalizations) because once I told this french guy that the "french can't drive" and for the rest of the evening he wouldn't leave me alone (lesson learned have stats in hand - when talking to a French) - Anywyas, even if these 3 questions don't get the conversation flowing then I'll just sit quietly (knowing that at least I made an honest effort!!!
