Shyness<3

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I'm shy too. :o

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I'm not familiar with him. But if he's an Islamic scholar and he's into numerology....that seems odd. Islam does not support numerology, astrology, palmistry, etc....especially if it's used to determine one's future. I don't know how wrong it is if you're only using the pseudosciences for determining only personality (and not the future) though. I think I'll look him up.

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I am also an introvert....and I've been misunderstood as well (thought of as aloof, cold, rude, stuck-up, etc). And I've noticed that with introverts.....if you're not smiling (and you can't be smiling all the time)....people sometimes think that there's something wrong...that you're upset...or unfriendly, etc. I'm more comfortable once I get to know a person. And there are other times when I can start a conversation with a stranger. LOL, sometimes there's no rhyme or reason. But I think teaching (interacting with students, their parents, colleagues, etc) has helped me become more comfortable talking with others. And then it can also depend upon whom the other person is....with some I prefer to keep my distance, lol.

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I think any line of work that involves a lot of people interaction helps a lot. I've also noticed, at least in my case, that being introvert/aloof I tend to daydream a lot. So much that its almost unhealthy, and some of my close friends call me 'saieen'. Kind of like JD in Scrubs... lol.

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I daydream toooo much... upon that I have an extremely vivid imagination - it's a little scary. Sometimes I wish I would stop doing that, and start living in the real world just like normal people :(

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:eek: pakwoman, your description of yourself is just like you’r describing me…i m a shy person yet confident, on and off i come out of my shell too, i daydream a LOT

basically i m an introvert too, very shy, kam bolti hun, reserved to some extent

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and what about your socail life...?

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few friends bcoz i prefer to be alone and daydream, although i m very frank with my teachers, my best friend is my mom, coming back from college i prefer to listen to music than chit chat with girls, used to be a stage-fright but with time have overcome it

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yup we're pretty much the same... except I prefer not to be too frank with my teachers.

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I think thinkig about it may not be too helpful. Sometimes, you analyze yourself way too much that it can get in your way.

I'm an introvet. A few years ago I was pretty much in a shell, and that used to bother me. But ever since starting uni and working it's pushed me to come out of my shell and be confident. I can happily start a conversation with a stranger [a friendly-looking one preferably]. With those I know I can go on for hours talking about everything and anything. In group situations I still like to take a back seat and let others do the talkign but I'm happy with that.

But if you really do want to come out of it, may be getting a self-help book could be helpful. Or give your self little challenges, like start with smiling at a stranger, than saying hello to someone you don't know, then perhaps exchanging a few words with someone.[a friendly-looking one preferably] :D

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my niece used to get remarks in her report cards in school that she is too quiet. that was then; now, it says she talks too much and is often moved around in her room...lol! thats like she divorced her shyness in a jiffy...lol

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Yup thinking too much can confuse but this whole discussion actually did help me identify the problem… so yeah…
I prefer taking on a leadership role in a group actually but only if asked otherwise I’d be more like the shadow king anyway… it’s because i am more comfortable giving tasks rather than taking them :sahar02:
I do talk quite a lot around friends… am quite comfortable around them naturally. The challenges tip could actually be very helpful. Thanx :slight_smile:

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lol! good for her... i changed a lot too since childhood but the kept the basics :)

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BTW…don’t smile at stranger males :nono4:… because then you may have to come here and open another thread about guys taking wrong meaning of you smiling at them..

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hehe i wouldn’t bring that up here… since i am all shy remember :blush:

:o

AND WHY WOULD I SMILE AT A STRANGER MALE IN THE FIRST PLACE?!! :mad:

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Because of the following advices..

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^ yes yes but we know what they all mean

And i learned never to make that innocent mistake long ago… :no:

But thanx for the warning anyway

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ahaaN...thats nice...the other day u mentioned that shyness doesn't add to a woman's feminity...well, that may be true but i said that from a man's perspective...laRke logoN kaa kahnaa hai k sharmili laRkiyaaN bahot pyaarii lagtii haiN. ;)**

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^ really cz i thought now-a-days men prefer confident and outgoing women - modern, less mashriki type... but then everyone has a different taste so we can't really generalize.

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:rotfl:

to be honest even I would never smile at a stranger, they’d probably think I’m weird or retarded. of course its different for girls, your smile might cause some fluttering butterflies in some guy :stuck_out_tongue: