I agree with the above completely. These type of mothers need a reality check. Instead of feeling bitter/angry/resentful towards their DILs and son… They should sit back and be happy that their child is happy and his marriage is flourishing with his spouse. Shouldnt every mother want that?! And why is it MILs are happy seeing their daughters do xy and z however when their son/DIL do the very same thing its an issue?
I dont think joint family situs work at all… I use to be a strong believer in living with parents in their old age.. But not with the paki culture that is enstilled so deep in them which actually contradict religion. The constant observation of ILs on any couple can be detrimental to any marriage. Couples need space and privacy and that can only be achieved if living seperately. A son must fulfil his duties both to his parents and to his wife however they must be easy on him too. I have seen the two very important women in a mans life ruin everything. Its all about balance and speaking up when one is doing wrong - be that your mother with their silly demands.