showing feelings in Pakistan

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Re: showing feelings in Pakistan

@pinks

^ i clearly mentioned in my post that i dont think they’re doing anything wrong… i do not agree with the MIL’s complaints. If anything, she should reprimand her son about these “issues” rather then blame it on the DIL.

All i’m saying is that not holding hands doesn’t hurt the couple, but is clearly annoying the MIL so i personally believe its wiser when living in such a joint family system to avoid it. They can hold hands when together and MIL isn’t around… koi intni baRhi qurbaani nahi deni paRh rahi hai.

I’d never hold my husband’s hands if we’re out at Hydri but wouldn’t think twice if we’re at Zamzama

Oh I am not disagreeing, look at it broadly though. I would agree with you if it was just about holding hands. but her expectations are ridiculous, essentially during the weekend when her son is free, she does not want the wife around. Yes they can be careful and not hold hands, I get it, i dont agree with it but i get it and it is probably the simplest to just avoid it in front of her, but how they tackle weekly kickouts from the home for the wife.

So my basic issue is ridiculous expectations rolled up in mumbo jumbo about traditions and culture. No harm in someone standing up and saying, with all due respect, no.