Hi you guys my cousins getting married and I wanted to know if anybody had pictures of bari being shown we needed ideas on how to arrange the dupatta in fashionable ways thank you! i’m not even sure if ppl show it these days but i will look forward to ur responses.
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i dont think so if it is done now during the barat or walima function like it was done many years back.since aunties of family are still curious to see jahaiz/bari,i have seen families inviting close relative(ladies)to a tea party and arranging all the stuff in a room or two,packed nicely in plastic bags,etc and show them.
we didnt do any such thing formally on my wedding though
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I find it a bit awkward to display those things to people, especially aunties who I know will gossip later like haww aisa tha waisa tha. People talk so much crap really, and I didn't show anything from my baree or jahez to anyone except my aunts, not even my close friends.. but that was mainly because we were so busy with wedding and all, last thing we had on our mind was to set things out to display. Besides, I have said this before and I will say it again, I am a big believer in nazar stuff too so that makes me very uncomfortable showing stuff to anyone who I am not close to.
I don't like the concept of showing the "bari" it's what's the parents gave their girl.. if it's close aunts and cousins that u want an opinion from then show them.
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Would absolutely HATE to have people looking at my wedding things and clothes / jewellery that my parents have bought for me.... NO WAY would I have this at my wedding.... what my parents get for me is just between them and myself.... it just seems sooo "show offy" to me.... don't like things like that.... just my opinion though so no offence to anyone who would do this....
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I think most people are going away from doing it .. especially the younger generation isnt much interest, although I've seen aunties getting upset and badmouthing, because the ladki waley didnt let the grooms family show off the bari as they would have liked .. people :halo
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i know my bari will be showed off...weather i like it or not. n tell u the truth i dont care...i m proud of what my mom got me...she worked really hard for it...n if she wants to show off thn i dont have a problem with that.
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Rabia, that's a nice way of looking at it and yep, you're right, it does make you (and your parents) proud and happy at what they do for loved ones....
I think the reason I don't want it is because I don't want people's grubby mitts touching my stuff!! I'd be the one standing in the corner and giving evil looks to all the aunties..... hehehehehe!! :) :) :) Only daughter you see, so very spoilt!! (hence the name on GS) hehehehe
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Actually, I haven't told my mum that I don't want anyone to see my things.... she may have other ideas and then i'll have no say whatsoever!!! :(
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well when my brother got married many years back we got the darzee to hang things and they sure did a dam good job of it, esp the lengha
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Ok, I definitely would not want ANYONE to see my lengha before the big day..... I want it to be a surprise!!! I probably wouldn't even let my sis-in-law (my bro's wife) see it as she most definitely would try to out do me!!! lol!! I'm not even joking!!! :)
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^seriously? crazy people!
^seriously? crazy people!
not crazy...but just thinks different frm u.
anyways ... i too wont show everybody my wedding or valima outfit...only to close cousins.
^u dont think its crazy if your bhabhi tries to outdo YOU on YOUR wedding day?
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Lol...
Sweetmoi, my bhabi is definitely in a league of her own when it comes to craziness!! :) :)
......and she's my khala's daughter as well...... hahaha
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ohhh the good old cousin ;)... well maybe she feels impressed by you!! ;) bechari bhabhi:p
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At my sister’s wedding recently (in Pak), the guests wanted to see the groom’s kapray too 
i know my bari will be showed off...weather i like it or not. n tell u the truth i dont care...i m proud of what my mom got me...she worked really hard for it...n if she wants to show off thn i dont have a problem with that.
Yeah I think it's not the point to show off the things but how much effort it went to put it together.
My mom's really close friends came to see my things and my mom was sharing her WAR stories about where the kapra came from and how much she bargain and then the tailor did this and that...
It's like a home project - when you are all done you want someone to say wow that was really hard work and you did a good job!
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And then there was my crazy cousin who rented manacins from the store and put all her bari on it and showed 15 sets from one side and the other 15 as well 
Hmm isnt Bari from the grooms side? Thats how it is in my family at least ..
Grooms family gives bride called: Bari
Brides family gives bridde called: jahez