Should we change ourselves to find a husband?

[kakaballi]

Re: Should we change ourselves to find a husband?

@Paheli00

Perhaps I missed something but what did OP say that led you guys to believe that she’s not willing to make ANY changes? Just b/c she’s not willing to make this one particular change, that makes her rigid?

@aliyahali

…But is it fair for people to assume that I should do something because husband wants me to? Should he not accept me as I am? And is it fair for people to think I am being too fussy by not giving in and doing this? And because I am of a certain age, should I be expected to accept a “good rishta” even though he is asking me do something I absolutely do not want to do…

These are general questions and not related to ‘one’ change. Also the topic of the thread asks a general question. There are ‘some’ changes that HAVE to be made by both spouses and you simply cannot continue living the way you used to before getting married.

If you cannot accept the changes expected of you after you get married, you better not accept the rishta. It is best for both. “Log kya kahain ge” should be sent to hell.