My sister is having her registration ceremony soon (court marriage) and as you all know its the womens side that organises and gives the money for this function. Now my sister orginally decided that she didnt want a wedding cake as she is not bothered to have one and also the really nice ones are too expensive. Anyway when the mother in law found out that she wasnt going to have a wedding cake she demanded that she should have one. The reason mother in law wants one because she wants the pictures to look nice ! Anyway I think it is alittle unfair that now my sister has to pay for a £300 cake just to please mother in law.
What does everyone think of this?
she wants a cake right? then she shud go get one herself :)
well tell her that the cake is served on walimas.....she should be able to get the hint....also...tell her to ask THEIR photographer to take tons of photos of the darn cake... :) yummy!
But yeah I would go with the “telling them the cake is usually served at the valima” idea.. but cunning desi ladies usually have a quick reply.. so I think being honest about the fact that your sis doesn’t want it would be best and that if MIL does, she can..
You could say that since the Valima doesn't have any specific events during it, that the cake-cutting would be nice during the Valima. Whereas, during the wedding there's the barat, the nikkah, the bride's big entrance, all that.
Or you could get a nice simple cake that people usually have on birthdays, One of my friend had a cake on registeration and It was for 50 quids or something and it was yummy
You dnt have to get big 10 tier cake anyway for the silly women, get something like this:
this is very bad... why is the mother in law already causing trouble? if i were your sister i really would not have the cake unless the mother in law offered to pay and make that clear to my mother in law... this will make it clear that she is not going to be run all over during the marriage
If I was in contact or close to my fiance/husband to be, I would tell him straight up to have his mother pay for the cake. Even during my wedding time, I never contacted my MIL if I needed anything, I would tell my fiance and he would ask her. If this is how unreasonable the MIL is acting then the hubby to be should take care of the situation.
thanks for everyones replies...My sister has already ordered the cake because my mum was like we might aswell as MIL is going half with the money on the photography and video. Therefore my mum thought it made sense if we should get the cake to avoid any problems....
WOw...WHat A MILawsssssssss... well every1 is rite ov here..to talk for urself or thuru ur husband 2 b.. for causing less mESs..
chalo ab tu mAsla hal hwa.. she's paying HalF na !!
if u think ur MIL is being unreasonable listen to this my MIL is making me wear this green sari for my valima which I absolutely do not want to because its too plain and unfortunately its not my taste or style...she is a very traditional lady and got upset when my fiance told her I don't want to wear it...I had another beautiful pink lehenga which I had posted pics up a while ago and thats what I wanted to wear but MIL said no i already told everyone that ur wearing the sari so wear it plz
^ just tsay the sari got lost or something..or do u hvae a dog..?..say ur dog ate it..hehe..cut it up...dont argue but just say that..then walk in that day with ur pink leghna..hehe..thatll show her..
