My sister is having her registration ceremony soon (court marriage) and as you all know its the womens side that organises and gives the money for this function. Now my sister orginally decided that she didnt want a wedding cake as she is not bothered to have one and also the really nice ones are too expensive. Anyway when the mother in law found out that she wasnt going to have a wedding cake she demanded that she should have one. The reason mother in law wants one because she wants the pictures to look nice ! Anyway I think it is alittle unfair that now my sister has to pay for a £300 cake just to please mother in law.
thats what I would have said..but you know my sis is alot nicer than I am :)..But its still annoying that MIL is making decisions and interference has started already
i think if the MIL wants a cake, she can pay for it. your sister really needs to stand up for herself starting now, or she's going to get pushed into a lot more things... but of course be nice about it. tell her that nice cakes are out of your budget and she'd rather spend that money elsewhere, i.e. on clothes or jewellery, etc.
its kind of a silly reason to get a cake, frankly... how many pictures will it be in, after all??
tel her if she is that bothered to get teh cake herself what a cowwwww gosh some women need to be shott !!
n if she insists too much get a cheap cake , nice and small and have it in every pic with your MIl to piss her off more at the end say you wanted it there you have it
thanks for everyones comments...just to clarify i got that part wrong..she didnt demand but she asked that their should be a wedding cake.But I think its still the same think because my mother couldnt say no!
thanks for everyones comments...just to clarify i got that part wrong..she didnt demand but she asked that their should be a wedding cake.But I think its still the same think because my mother couldnt say no!
you know wht make makes me feel sad each time I read these MIL and DIL comments--dont the MIL's remember their time as a bride. Of course they wouldn't have liked someone else choosing their clothes, forcing them to give certain gifts, "suggesting" certain things be at the wedding, so why do they do this to the girl and her family?????
we should communicate with them properly and exercise our right..because its our time...isnt it? :) ..i remember when i was in pakistan for my nikah..i was being bombarded with orders and commands.....but by being polite..and communicative.... I let them know that I am a different person, and not a slave to everyone's wishes...I asked her if it were ok for me to go around and look at stuff myself......she was like...ok :)
yeah open communication is SO important- whether its with your hubby, your inlaws or your own parents. and honestly, i do wish i practiced that with my MIL but she usually leaves me speechless and all the witty comebacks, one-liners, and honest answers come after the shock and/or anger have subsided. DOH!
i'm working on it though... wish me luck, girls! she's quite the handful, let me tell ya.
yeah open communication is SO important- whether its with your hubby, your inlaws or your own parents. and honestly, i do wish i practiced that with my MIL but she usually leaves me speechless and all the witty comebacks, one-liners, and honest answers come after the shock and/or anger have subsided. DOH!
i'm working on it though... wish me luck, girls! she's quite the handful, let me tell ya.
I am quite like that with people who say annoying things. I am so shocked that someone could say such a thing that by the time a response come sto me its usually too late, my MIL and others all included!!
