Should she get over it?

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Re: Should she get over it?

@rosedreams

minimum contact doesnt mean that they cant call on Eid or whatsoever. I THINK that they may be uninterested as essentially, no commitment was made by any side. Just wait for the guy’s side to make contact again, or get sis rishta with someone else after asking arnd what happened to the other dude.

yeh, I was thinking they’d call on Eid. At the very least. Or the guy would keep some contact with my sister.

@Sahar02

If you like the guy and family, why would you cut off talks just because he doesn’t have a job yet? I can understand waiting for the actual wedding, but to completely cut off the rishta doesn’t make any sense. Since you weren’t ready to make a commitment, I don’t think you should expect them to have made a commitment. Maybe they’re checking out other options.

@blackforest_360

I disagree. They were probably thinking: “Mundiya get a job before you start looking for a voti”. It’s not about “rich” caretaker but about financial security which every parent wants for his/her child. I’d like to know how he planned on making a marriage work, live off of loans/parents til he’s settled?

@Sahar02

^Like I said, I wouldn’t expect them to want the wedding before he had the job. But they are unwilling to commit or even continue talks, but surprised that they aren’t hearing from him. Why should he hang about if he’s not good enough?

We didn’t tell them no. My dad just said that we’re dealing with lot of hypotheticals atm considering my sister had applied everywhere for med school (and there was no guarantees that she was gonna get in anywhere) and that the boy had no job and was out of the country for school. The guy had been concerned with the long distance marriage situation tht could arise if they got jobs/admission in 2 different places AND my parents/sister didn’t understand how the guy expected to support both of them (he agreed to do this) considering he wanted my sister to focus on med school (ie: not work) and he didn’t want my parents/his parents to support them either. My parents were open to talking but HIS side wanted a commitment in the form of enggement/nikkah and my family wanted to hold off on that until a) the academic/job situation panned out b) they gave us more info on their family and whatnot. My dad had asked them to provide info on their family or rishtaydaar in Pak so we figured that until June/July we could figure tht out and then commit as soon as he got a job/my sister found out where she got in.