should one feel offended?

[mizsani]

Re: should one feel offended?

@S02

^ I think I would also feel hurt by the excluding and lying. Makes it all feel like a more deliberate insult, rather than just a little outing. But perhaps what the other posters are advocating is a different approach for yourself, so you are not as vulnerable.

angel, i don’t think you should expect a personal invite, especially when it’s close family involved. i always gets invites extended to me through others and i don’t think it’s a big deal. but as you say you found that you were actually not welcome, i think that is really weird behavior on your IL part.

Oh ya, I don’t take anything she does to my heart anymore. I moved out and I am way happier. mashaAllah. I was never upset about her behavior of excluding me. However, I was a bit offended that someone would have to put so much effort just to exclude me.

@angel… I never get nor expect a separate invitation. FIL sometimes calls to make sure i am coming though. It is sort of weird for me to get personal invites because I do not know how to turn them down. If they call hubby, I can easily say no to him if I want to. It just leaves me with more options.