^ as the title says…
for example, marrying someone just because your parents tell you to, because you feel like they’ve done a lot for you and you owe them…
Re: Should life be based on sacrifice?
There is duty and respect, and then there is sacrifice.
I think that we do owe our parents a certain amount of duty and respect.
But never sacrifice. No parent who truly loves their children would ask this of them anyway.
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Re: Should life be based on sacrifice?
hmmmm...
Well ive had a complete arranged marriage.
and my parents had picked Angel and honestly at first it was like she's too hyper and outgoing and too happy and jumpy and care free all the time ...
where as with me im more quiet and organised...so at first when we were introduced i said yes because of my pasrents respect for them and becase they knew me better then anyone else..and im glad i did because she's an amazing person and really kind hearted ...
however when it comes to the parents marrying off there children for selfish reasons then sacrifice should never be done!
Re: Should life be based on sacrifice?
define sacrifice... and define what parents are asking of you...
if they know whats best for you and saying "beta... consider tihs person", then maybe give the person a go.. but if they are forcing it upon you... then thats another story
hmmmm... Well ive had a complete arranged marriage. and my parents had picked Angel and honestly at first it was like she's too hyper and outgoing and too happy and jumpy and care free all the time ... where as with me im more quiet and organised...so at first when we were introduced i said yes because of my pasrents respect for them and becase they knew me better then anyone else..and im glad i did because she's an amazing person and really kind hearted ... however when it comes to the parents marrying off there children for selfish reasons then sacrifice should never be done!
b/w my hubz and i werent arranged.. and we are just like you guys.. im highly hyperactive and crazy and he the opposite... but it worked :) sometimes people naturally look for opposites.. somewhat
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yeah its like completing each other!! but its like also raising a kid :D specially when u wives get carefree!!! and dont clean up the bedroom!!
AHEM AHEM
define sacrifice... and define what parents are asking of you...
if they know whats best for you and saying "beta... consider tihs person", then maybe give the person a go.. but if they are forcing it upon you... then thats another story
hmmm in this case its a "marry your cousin" situation. I'd never considered it ever, having been brought up in the western world, I consider it a bit weird.
on the one hand they know what's best for me, but on the other, their reasons a slightly selfish (that if its a girl from the family she'll respect us and live with us but if she's from outside the family she'll want to live separately, will be rude to us - it almost comes off as "if she's my niece I can control her and make her do what I want)
I very much liked ur topic but it's no time for me to answer it bcoz im leaving from my office for home. so
Allah Hafiz
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Re: Should life be based on sacrifice?
no life should not be based on sacrifice
life is only once , every phase of life is only once so dont do something that is not your decision or doesnt make you happy
as far as parents are concerned , yes we do owe duty and respect to our parents bt
making big sacrifices it nt neceessary
bt u need to define sacrifice n wt dey r are asking of u
^ as the title says....
for example, marrying someone just because your parents tell you to, because you feel like they've done a lot for you and you owe them....
I used to and I was and I still am like that to sacrifice life for parents especially whoever is in your custody or for any person. Allah give reward.
Now I don't think so. if you love someone and genuine and your mom or parents ask you to marry someone then I won't suggest you to don't listen to your parents aur bhaag kar shadi kar lo naheen.
Try to convince them try everything you can in a respected manner if nothing works out then I would say scrifice yourself for them and for other things in which you'll get hurt badly and wouldn't find any cure and fall in sin then don't do sacrifice.
If nothing would work that's mean Allah don't want that thing to happen.
^ as the title says....
for example, marrying someone just because your parents tell you to, because you feel like they've done a lot for you and you owe them....
Personally, I think to honor our parents we should always look for people who will respect them and treat them as their own. Because they deserve it.
That being said, be smart people. If your parents' choice is obviously ten times better in seerat then the one you're with...go with what they're saying. Its not a sacrifice at that point, its called saving yourself. However, if they're just insisting for the sake of having their say in the matter and you feel your partner can treat your parents well...stick with your man/woman.
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I'm not "with" anyone, and I'd never get married if my parents didn't agree.
in fact I'd rather they found someone that they "pre approved" of and then let me make a decision, but its just the whole marrying a cousin situation, especially for they reasons they give... I just feel that if I'm not happy going through with it now, I'll never be happy with the marriage....
I'm not "with" anyone, and I'd never get married if my parents didn't agree.
in fact I'd rather they found someone that they "pre approved" of and then let me make a decision, but its just the whole marrying a cousin situation, especially for they reasons they give... I just feel that if I'm not happy going through with it now, I'll never be happy with the marriage....
If you are not happy then keep convincing them until they do what you want. Your happiness is important in a marriage. Parensts shouldn't be forcing you.
If you aren't happy then don't go for it and tell them.
are tryna say u were forced!!! 
scuse meee i remember cleaning the room up before i left 
its nawt my fault u messed it up after i left 
thas what i told ure mum
Angie is H 21 is your hubby?
Now I got other side of story for your thread. He is organized and he want things be done in his way so that is good. Organized hona to achchi baat hai. LOL I'm organzed person too.
Re: Should life be based on sacrifice?
Life shouldn't so much be 'based' on sacrifice, but sometimes the situation arises and its best to weigh the pros and cons and see if the sacrifice is worth making in relation to what you would be losing if you didnt. Sometimes sacrifices like youve mentioned can be the best thing that could possibly happent to you, but sometimes a sacrifice is a sacrifice and you end up not living that oh so perfect life you had dreamt out. Comes down to prayer and love, do what you think is best and just pray that your sacrifice is worth it.
Always be yourself don't change for no one. Only make sacrifices if you have something to gain elsewhere.
Your parents reasoning is flawed, time to make your stand, otherwise you will forever regret your decision. No matter how much you wish you will not be able to turn back the tide of time.
Furnish your battle axe let the war begin.
N_21 is yeh and i am organised i dsnt knw what he means that im care free im reallie caring 
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Wow - this really drives home how lucky I am with my parents!!