I feel people look at me when I’m outside in public and that makes me uncomfortable and sometimes guilty that I’ve been earning sin by getting attention. Should I start wearing Niqab?
My husband is against niqab because he thinks that I’ll be receiving negative attention from people, I’ve already reduced going outside alone, what should I do? How can I become immuned to being stared at by men and women?
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Do what you personally think is correct . People's opinion shouldn't drive your lifestyle .
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make dua
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If you are going to get more stares by wearing niqab then may be its better not.
Do what you personally think is correct . People's opinion shouldn't drive your lifestyle .
QFMFT.
Do what you personally think is correct . People's opinion shouldn't drive your lifestyle .
You're right, it shouldn't but it does affect our lifestyle in negative and positive ways. So how not to let yourself get affected by others?
It is always a disaster whenever we go out to eat in a restaurant. :(
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Why are they staring at you? Maybe it's the style of your hijab?
Anyway, I do not get this idea of 'earning sin'. You are not doing anything wrong are you?
Why are they staring at you? Maybe it's the style of your hijab?
Anyway, I do not get this idea of 'earning sin'. You are not doing anything wrong are you?
My hijab style....I was wearing two scarves....small white one was wrapped around my head and neck and I put the black silky crinkley scarf over the white scarf, like a nun and I didn't realized this until my husband said this to me. Perhaps it was that. lol
Earning sin.....well, to be honest, I like when good looking men look at me with appreciation in their eyes. But afterwards I feel ashamed and guilty. I'm not supposed to like being looked at by other na mehram.
Earning sin.....well, to be honest, I like when good looking men look at me with appreciation in their eyes. But afterwards I feel ashamed and guilty. I'm not supposed to like being looked at by other na mehram.
that's just natural, a test from Allah... we just have to make dua and fight our nafs. nothing to do with niqab.
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^I agree.
Need to stop liking it innit. Step one would be to be so engrossed in hubby and kids that you don't notice them looking at you in the first place.
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2 things bother me - I made the assumption that you have an increasing sense of guilt these days (or maybe you have always been like this).
Secondly, it bothers me when women who dress modestly anyway feel the need to disappear under a shell like a turtle, it's like hiding away from the world, without a need.
Of course it is your own understanding of Islam and what you believe, but my personal view is different.
Do you wear make-up out? If so, would you try going make-up free, it may deter attention from males. (And ditch the nun look!).
I feel niqab in this country WILL attract NEGATIVE attention from males and females.
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Do what you feel is best but i would second what Rupay said about the makeup bit. If you wear that, maybe stop doing that. Wear looser, plainer clothes if that makes you feel better.
Or maybe think of a sec that you are taking the stares all wrong. Perhaps they arent even looking at you for that long but YOU feel it that way?
Well Naqab is not a mandatory thing, and if your husband is against it, may be you shouldn’t wear it. Hijab, however, is a requirement so you should stick to that even if people are against it. At least u don’t live in Ireland, Hareem. I’m sure there is plenty of other hijabis where u live.
But yes people will look at u bcoz u do look different with the hijab on… Do u remember that show on Geo tv called “George ka Pakistan” ? It was about this american dude who went to Pakistan to try and become a pakistani… in every single public shot, you could see people gathering in crowds to look at Mr. George 
… ofcourse, they wanted to be in the cam as well but even George said he felt very awkward in public, people just stared and stared at him like he was an alien.
So u need not feel guilty, if u look different than the rest of the society, people will look at u in a strange way, whether ur a male or female
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First, figure out why you're getting more than your share of stares. And if you are ideed getting more than your share of them. I think pretty much everywhere, people do look at each other - people are naturally curious. Is it more than that with you? Why is this? Do you dress differently than the majority of others? Even the most modest of outfits will get more stares if its very different from the norm. If you are physically beautiful, people will appreciate that and admire. Theres usually nothing more to that than if they were admiring a masterpiece in an art gallery. And theres nothing wrong in feeling happy about it - you are being paid a complement!
If you live in an area where many dress in niquab then it may help your self confidence when you go out. But it could backfire on you if niquab is somewhat rare to see. People will stare more.
We had a muslim family in our neighborhood and the mom and daughter wore headscarves. But they wore them in kind of western style, they tied the scarf at the back of their head, under their hair so it was "westernly fashionable" and they didnt get odd or curious looks.
I hope you find a solution that makes it better for you when you're out and about!!
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People will ALWAYS stare. Fact.
^ Ditto.
they never stare at me 
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Like most folks have said, wearing a niqab will not deter people from staring at you. You can't change human nature.
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Thanks everyone for your replies…everything you guys said make sense. :k:
Do what you personally think is correct . People's opinion shouldn't drive your lifestyle .
agreed