Re: Should i wait for love or have an arranged marriage?
Maena dear thanks for asking this question and letting us tell you things to help you.
First I like your being very truth and realistic.
Your sisters as one poster said are waiting for fairy tales love which only happens in stories only.
Tell them to come out from Cinderalla mandir or cage or whatever or dream or khiaali pulao.
Kaheen prince charming affair kay chakkar main baal hi sufaid na kar lain aur baad main apni nadani pay roaain.
Shukar hai kay aap apni bahnon ki nisbat kafi samajhdaar hain.
Pehli baat to yay kay jub love 12 say 16 saal kay darmiaan naheen huwa jo kay love shove ka daur hota hai to phir to love shove hona zara mushkil kaam hota hai. It all depends.
Jahan tuk love ya arrange ki baat hai to jaisa kay auron nain kaha hai guarantee to kisi ki naheen hoti. Yay to sub aap ki qismat pay depend karta hai agar qismat main achcha insaan likha hai to zaroor milay ga chahaay love ho kay arrange.
Mairay ghar main to jinhon nain love marriage ki hai donon miaan biwi aik doosray ko maar kutai kartay hain. lol Main nain aisa hi daikha hai. Jis main ghar walon ka koi kisi qism ka involvement naheen hota. Meri bahnon ko arrange marriage hai shadi say pehlay daikha tuk naheen tha. Wedding day hi aik doosray par jo bijliaan gireen ho gi aik doosray pay.
Masha Allah achchi chaal rahi hai. It all depends aap chalana chahain shadi ko to buray aur budtameez insaan kay saath bhi sari zindagi guzara kar sakti hain na chahain to zara si baat pay bhi chor sakti hain.
Meri bahnain masha Allah budttareen daur say guzreen. Kia kuch naheen huwa un kay saath per masha Allah sub kuch bardaasht kia ub masha Allah aish kar raheen hain husband kay saath hain. Ji haan ussi husband kay saath ub masha Allah khush hain.
Love to ho bhi sakta hai naheen bhi. Kisi aik party ko ho sakta hai aur doosri ko bilkul bhi naheen. Love hona to door ki baat hai nafrat aur dushmani bhi ho sakti hai. Aur kia pata pehlay to love ho jaay laikin baad main uski harkaton aur sulook say sara ishq ka bhoot manon mitti talay dub jaay. To kia karain gi.
Meri aik bahan. Fall in madly love with the arranged person. Didn't see him before marriage just a picture. She was like crazy in his love but that guy didn't love her. Now she don't love him that much as he has been keep hurting her all the time.
Mera to mashwara hai. Love kay chakkar main to parna hi naheen chahyay. Kisi kay bhi naheen siwaay Allah, Rasool, Quran kay. Baqi sub love baykar hotay. General love to her Allah ki makhlooq say karna chahyay balkay bepanah karna chahyay. Laikin opposite shuks say hargiz na karain. Kaheen bhi love ka sila naheen milta hai. Dukh dard aur takleef kay siwa kuch nahee.
Aap pehlay yay ghor karain ya sochain ya samjhain kay aap sub say ziada importance aap kis baat ko deteen hain. Wo shakl o soorat hai, taleem hai, qud kaath hai, daulat hai, rungat hai.
Aap ko khud pata ho ga Wo tamaam baatain jo aap chahteen hain aur preference deteen hai wo apnay parents ko bata dain kuch to wo khud bhi samajhtain hon gay laikin phir bhi aap sub kuch bata dain. Aur clearly kah dain kay aap ko aisa larka chahyay. Koi sharam na karain. Jaisay agar aap handsome larka chahteen hain to aap bata dain parents ko is liaay kay yay aap ka huq hai. Aap nain sari zindagi saath rehna hai.
Jub wo sub baatain ya aap ki pasaan larkay main milaain gi aur khaas tor say wo jis ko aap sub say ziada ahmiaat deteen hain to aap khud bakhud fall in love ho jain gi like cindrella. Pooray yaqeen kay saah kah raha hoon. As it happened to my one sister. She told everything to my parents but what she preferred most didn't tell my parents but my parents knew that what she prefer most so they found according to her preference. She fall in love with him without even seeing him.
Tell you truth first love yah daikhtay hi jo click kar jaay wo to looks hota hai ya chahray ka koi aik part jaisay aankh, naak, gaal, hont waghaira.
So think what you like most eyes, eyes color, face color, naak, hont, gaal. Tell your parents.
I'll suggest don't look for love don't ever ever ever fall in love. You know why when you fall in love with the person and mostly other person doesn't fall in love then he keep hurting you. Because of love you get hurt and forgive. He keep you hurting and in love you keep forgiving. That destroy you.
Better not to fall in love. When we fall in love we behave like blind. When we don't fall in love then we deals with the situation like normal person. Falling in love might make you crazy, and or abnormal in the end if other party don't love you at all.
So try to remain normal instead of abnormal.
Love to saath rehtay rehtay khud bakhud ahista ahista hota rehta hai.
You know what nikah hotay hi khud bakhud aik doosray kay dil main aik doosray kay liaay mohabbat ho jaati hai. Kitni hoti hai yay person pay depend karta hai per hoti zaroor hai kum ya ziada.
So mera mashwara hai don't look for love in your side. You should choose the person who loves you. He will treat you like Cindrell. If you love the person he doesn't he will treat you like a junk.