Re: should i say sorry first?
simply dont reply to the thread or PM the mods to close the thread.
Re: should i say sorry first?
he was being a total b***h to me
yeah. he's gone for good.
Re: should i say sorry first?
Re: should i say sorry first?
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1) "I just said hi to him and he didn't respond."
2) "He's online but he didn't respond"
3) "BTW, he did respond"
4) "He's being a total b*tch to me. He's gone for good."
5) "I wish I could get over him, but I can't."
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HB,
None of the above quotes (sorry if the wording isn't exact) that YOU wrote......make you look cool. And if a random stranger....like myself....and possibly others on Gupshup.........who have never seen you.........can feel this way.......................................................THEN imagine how this guy who does see you regularly must perceive you. In other words, if your posts give off a "needy/desperate" vibe..........then you might appear even more "needy/desperate" to him. And that's a turn-off for both genders because it makes one appear less confident and insecure. You can argue all you want that you are NONE of these things...................but you may be unknowingly sending this negative impression of yourself.
**1) **It doesn't seem to me that you guys are BF and GF. You refer to him as best friend. A good friend gives their friends SPACE. You're not married to him....and even married couples know the importance of giving each other space. And this can be done without obsessing about where he is every other second. You may not admit to it, but I think that you too would get irritated if a friend wanted to spend every waking second of the live-long day with you. Friendship....even the ones with your female friends....will get stale if you're always talking to one another.
*2) * You say that you're trying to get "over" him, but you can't. Getting "over" someone entails keeping yourself busy with various positive activities. And this does not include......wondering where he his every second, doodling his name in your notebook, telling everyone on GS about his every move, etc.
*3) * Just because you don't have a car and a job, doesn't mean that HE should be the sole focus of your life. And don't behave as though he is the ONLY friend you have. Surely you must have others....and if you only concentrate on him....you lose the others that you have. Go to the mall, work out, watch a movie, read a book, look up cars that you'd be interested in, try to convince your parents to let you work, consider a job where you work at home such as tutoring, wash the dishes, cook something new, make something, work on praying namaz regularly if you struggle with that, etc.
4) When you're busy in a positive way..........you're not thinking about him much. So, he doesn't think that your life revolves around him. He'll know that you're not always going to drop everything and come running to him. If you're always the one seeking him out.......then what effort does he have to make in maintaining the friendship? Absolutely zero. He doesn't have to try cuz you're always there. This isn't even confined to guys. It also applies to your female friends. People can tell if you're breathing down their neck...even if it's from afar.
5) You shouldn't sacrifice your schedule for him either. If you have things that need to get done...you can keep the conversation short or end it first and attend to those tasks.
6) Human nature isn't consistent. We all have days when we're fun and pleasant...and days when we're grouchy. If he's frequently irritable, that's another issue. But...don't expect him to be happy all the time...cuz even you wouldn't be like that. And there's no rule stating that he needs to respond to you right away either online or via phone. And there's no rule stating that he needs to maintain a certain length of conversation. And guess what? The SAME goes for you.
7) This is supposed to be the most carefree and best time of your life. Time that could be spent having fun...is spent on sulking over him....and you won't get that time back. Don't lose yourself/identity over a guy. He can talk to you when he wants to. You don't have to wait. And have enough respect for yourself to end it if you're not being treated right. If he's not interested in maintaining a relationship with you, so be it....your life will continue going on....only with less clutter.
In any normal circumstances I would have told you to apologize first. Its happens. But, since he knows you have feelings for him and by what it sounds like he is using you. He thinks he can do whatever and you will forgive him and come back running to him. Well time for a reality check for him. If he truly cares for you and values your freindship and you as a person he will take the step forward especially if in the past you took the first step. I guess this is your chance to truly how strong your friendship is.
I am having issues with this guy friend of mine. Like me and him are VERY close and stuff and we've been through a lot together. Well, we got into an argument about something a day ago, (he was acting strange and thought something is wrong with me) and well before leaving he said " U know if u still wanna be angry then go ahead i don't care" and then I said "yeah im sure u dont care and guess what i dont care either" and well, I really didn't mean that. Then, today he asked me if i was mad so i told him "do you care...no, you don't..so why are you asking me?" and then he was like "We'll see how long you do this for. Have fun." and then I replied "I'll see how long I do this for too, and I'll definitely have fun(:" and then he just logged out on me on facebook (the only way we can communicate right now is through facebook b/c we don't see each other over the summer and stuff) so I get mad and delete him from my facebook. I really wish I hadn't but he was indirectly saying I need him or something. (the thing is i like him, and well he knows that, well now he thinks i don't b/c we had another argument 3 weeks ago...and the thing is before we never ever use to have arguments while now we have a whole lot (we've been friends for 3 yrs). also, i've liked him for around 2.5 yrs and he liked me for like a week and moved on and he did this like 2 times and he always comes to me when he needs me.) I don't know what to do, should I wait for him to say sorry (it was both our fault, but then he made me very angry when he said he doesn't care and that's why I didn't say sorry).