Should I say something?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Best thing is talk it out. Girls like to ***** around and it never gets anywhere.

Guys say it or fight over it. Then it's finished and done. In the history books. ;)

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Ola amigo! Before I even began writing please do correct me if a say anything wrong. what i feel is that jab log yahan per new atay hain to wo apna aap bhool jate hain, welll not necesarilly but yeh. I feel friendship wo hoti hain jis mai aik soodra apni dukh sukh share ker sake. aab aap usay pyar se bethao or us se poocho exactly why did u say that. One thing i dont understand is why had she minded ur siblings exchanging messaged based on hadiths and stuff. I mean she should have been happy when she found out that because most peole when the migrate to an outside country and see what their people are doing, actually become upsey due to the identity they have lost. Wesay aj kal thore he bache hain jo religion ke peeche bagte hain. so please try talking to her. i can give u one example similar to ur story. One of my friends mother (aunt) came new to canada and observed that all gore people here wear pants and all. She spoke to my paapi and said "hey, hum kiun assay dress kerain in logon jessay" after an year she got a job she began wearing pants. So finally am going to say is that log new atay hain kuch nai wo maloom krtay, they just go with flow, when they do get settled they forget everythin.

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No no no!
another girls/guys fight fest in tow.

Screw you CEO!

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^
God knows what she said. But I agree with her. :p

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Screwing around is haraam and I don't partake in such filthy activities. ;)

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lol. i am talking about your friend. kher if you are close to her, its good to let her know about this and confront her. i particularly dont like confrontations. i let go things pretty easily (i think).

but beware to calculate the damages before you actually confront her, that can you accept the possibility of losing your friend. if no, then let it go, and forget about it as it never happened.

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sorry i hav quite grammar mistakes as am posting this through my cell

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Are you telling me or convincing yourself? lol

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I don't forgive you. :p

I hope you're taking my ever so awesome advice and reading lots of books?

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Merely setting the record straight from my side. :p

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Lol, you know how us newbies are. We tend to treat our threads like our babies, all motherly and affectionate about it.

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Women, pfft. Always thinking about having kids.

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jee, un ko chooti chooti-chay slits or oonchi chaak wali kameez or capri shalwar, jis per dopataa phen-nay ki zaroret bhi na peray. wo phen-ni cheye hai. :hehe:

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ArabJaani,
Pehley mujhey laga app merey barey mein keh rahay ho kay may apna app bhool gaeee new GS per a kar.

Anyway,
Thing is she isn't new here. She has lived here for most of her life (for education) and ended up getting married here while her family moved back home.

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Oi mai tumhari ami ko bataoon gi acha. Yahan per late online bethay hote ho larkiyon ko tang kerne ke liay. Man I have always been reading books its not something new. Actually am online on my cellie andthese keys r very mini and its hard to push them :p acha stop tanging girls here now! And u plz learn urdu because you know :urdu language is my mind, urdu language is my kind, so step aside and let this language through, as its all about or mother tounge crew :)

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Urdu is not my mother tongue though. I can speak my mother tongue well. :)

LOL, tell my momma? I'm not 10 years old :p

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RV said it best.

I dont think you should let this go...you need to say something because if she is a friend...she deserves that much. It sounds as if you care for her, so give her a chance to fix this before you write her off.

Bring it up thoughtfully and let her know its been on your mind and since she is like a sister to you...she deserves to know its been bothering you.

I would simply say the F bomb has nothing to do with Islam...dignified conversations dont usually include the F bomb. If you and your family was all that religious or imposing...there is no way you would have gotten along with her for so long. If she can recall a single conversation in which religion was brought up in a way to make her feel uncomfortable...then you are all ears. But for the future, when she is around family...she simply needs to be aware of her language. This holds true for every non-Muslim family I know as well. Does she swear in the work place? In front her parents? Then why is she swearing in front of your sisters and cousins?

As for the cousins and sisters posting hadith on facebook...I dont see how its her business to comment on how your relatives seek guidance or happiness. Be polite but make it clear that being friends does not make it okay for her to start commenting on your family.

I cant believe she said that!

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why its so hard for women to deal with people they call their 'friends'??

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Nomi, I can always count on you!

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i don't know what you meant........but this like 4th or 5th thread girl asking how to deal with her friend...thats y i askd...it would good if you could clear my 'misconeptions' ...