Neighbours allowing their kids to throw eggs at my home, breaking the bike of my son and then stealing both his bike and my daughters bike? Calling me ‘whore’ and keep ringing my doorbell? Beating my son and using different ways to try to make him fight them, using different ways to try to fight with me?
This Saturday, a bunch of kids, apparently of my own neighbourhood, had permission of everyone to throw eggs at my home, even found pieces of apple! They were making a lot of noise when they threw those eggs and apples at my home, they screamed and cheered so much, I’m sure people in other streets must have heard it too and probably wondered if there was a party or a fight going on in my street…
None of the neighbours in my own street stopped those kids! Those kids must have taken the eggs and apples from their parents kitchens, yet nobody stopped them, and while throwing at my home they were making so much noise, yet nobody stopped them. They kept ringing my doorbell all day, and everytime yelling ‘whore’ really loud, everyone could hear it, I could even hear it without answering the door, they kept saying ‘whore’, called my son even ‘whore’ and one even called me ‘pijpenslet’, they also broke the bike of my son and then stole both the bikes of my children. They kept making a lot of noise even then, yelling and screaming. It was impossible not to have heard them! And now my neighbours are claiming they ‘didn’t notice’. Yeah, right. Well, I didn’t react at all, I didn’t do anything, only one thing, when those kids called me and my son whore, I told them their own mother was a whore and when they called me ‘pijpenslet’ I told them their own mother was a ‘pijpenslet’. That’s it. For the rest, I didn’t do anything back.
My neighbours definitely knew about this, because those kids had made a lot of noise while they were breaking my sons bike, and a lot of noise when they were throwing eggs and apples at my home, and a lot of noise when they were calling me ‘whore’ and ‘pijpenslet’. None of my neighbours stopped those kids. And their own parents even gave them permission, because how else did those children get so many eggs and even some apples to throw at my home?
My appartment is such, that to enter the building, someone has to open one main door with a key, or ring a doorbell so someone inside can open that main door, and then, when you’re inside, then you come across the different appartments. Mine is on second floor. This morning I discovered eggs and paper smeared on my front door. Someone must have let those children in! None of my neighbours are willing to tell me which one of them let those children in to put those eggs and paper pieces on my front door. They all deny knowing what those children did. That is impossible, considering all the noise those kids kept making.
I didn’t do anything this time. Last time, when I did open my mouth and asked that my son should be left alone when kids kept beating him up, I was beaten up myself. I didn’t even start a fight. I haven’t started any fight with anyone in my neighbourhood.
My experience is that when I do say something about it, when someone does something to me or my kids, everyone denies and blames me instead. Even now my neighbours claim they didn’t know those kids threw all those eggs at my home… Which is impossible. If I do complain, nobody is going to do anything about it. I don’t even know those kids. And if the neighbours deny, those kids will deny too.
I stopped doing anything about it, I stopped complaining. I always get the blame anyway. And if I will react, they will always keep doing something, because that’s what people like. If they see you become sad or angry, they get what they want and then they keep doing that.
I can’t prove anything, despite the fact that my neighbours did hear and see those kids yelling and screaming while throwing eggs and apples at my home. It was impossible to not notice…
If I don’t complain, they will get away with it. But if I do, I’m not sure all the kids who did will be found and punished, they probably won’t even admit it. And even the neighbours of my own building lie that they ‘didn’t notice’. I keep shutting up now more often and I stopped becoming angry. But I don’t like what they did. While they were doing that, not just Saturday, they even tried to harrass us Sunday, but we didn’t react, while they did that, I told my children not to look outside because that’s what those kids and the neighbours obviously wanted. I told my kids not to say anything, because that’s what those neighbours and their kids wanted. I told my kids not to react at all. I just stopped reacting. I even enjoyed myself with my books and my children kept playing computer games. I kept comforting them. And kept telling them not to react at all and keep doing the nice things they like inside our home. On Sunday, when those kids noticed that nothing helps, that I still don’t become angry, that my kids and me still stay inside our home, well, then they did stop sooner. On Saturday, they spent almost the entire day harrassing us. Today, they only rang the doorbell once. I’m sure they were told to again. But again my neighbours could see I wasn’t angry, I did ask a few who were home, which one of them let those kids in the building to smear my front door with eggs. Of course, nobody ‘noticed it’.
I’m not sure what to do. There isn’t much to do about it anyway. How can my neighbours claim they ‘didn’t notice’ all that screaming and yelling that accompanied the eggs and apples throwing?!
I’m just myself now, I don’t react and do nothing. If people keep trying to fight, I don’t go near them anymore. Allah has seen everything. I keep thinking, should I do something about it? But obviously my neighbours were behind those children and now the few neighbours I asked about it, claim they ‘didn’t know’. Is it any use if I decide to do something about it? I don’t know what to do about it. I could just leave it to Allah then.
Last time when I was beaten up by two women I don’t even know, I went to the police station right away and they asked me if I wanted to make it up! They didn’t even file a rapport against those women, I wanted charges against them, I had decided that for the first time in my life, I would actually do something against people who do something awful like that to me, so I went to the police station and they didn’t even take me seriously. Angrily I went a second time, that day they gave me an appointment to file charges. Then afterwards I got a letter from a police department, in which it said I should call an police officer who wants to know something more about it. That was strange, because there was nothing more to know about it. Yet, I called, and they claimed that person wasn’t there and would call me back and afterwards I heard nothing about it.
I get the feeling they still didn’t even take that seriously, just like the police officers who were there the first day, when immediately after I was beaten up I had gone to the police station. For the first time I actually tried to do something to get justice for me, and it seems they won’t do anything about it! When I saw the reaction that first day, when I went to the police station, one of them was laughing and clearly not taking me seriously. That day I lost my respect for my local police station. I had always thought every police protects everyone, but that day, when I went there, trusting on the help of the police, that day when I saw their reaction, how they didn’t even take me seriously, after I told them I was beaten up, that day I started to loose my respect for my local police… They wouldn’t help me, there were two or three kind ones, but the rest of them clearly showed me they didn’t take me seriously at all.
So is it really usefull to do something? I don’t know what to do or what not to do. All I know is that my children and me only have Allah and perphaps only after death one day we’ll get justice. It would be nice if during our lifetime we could have justice too. Or perhaps it isn’t meant for us.
yeh aaj kal ke bacchay 
