aahmed I agree with you but not all families are understanding and willing to listen to you.... my family is very backwards, they think there kids lives are their lives so they make the decisions for them, sometimes we have no say in it! It is about respect and thats why you say yes........ but sometimes it just hits you and you figure out that this really is your life... and thats what happened to me after the nikkah after realizing what kind of people im gona spend my future with...... I dont expect you to understand.... for my family it is the 12th century.....
I'm sorry, I know that a lot of people believe that way, but in my opinion it's asinine. Respect goes both ways, respect begets respect, respect is earned. Clearly your parents are showing a lack of respect to you by asking you to accept their wishes without question and without them having to be reasonable. It's nonsense, they don't have a right to cock up your life for some unknown notion of respect, it's BS. And if you are 'traditional' enough to 'respect' them and too 'respectful' to question their orders, why are you starting now? Respect their wishes and stay with the guy.