I dont think he'll throw me out but, its gona be like i dont exist ... and he wont talk to me...
Not to be unkind, but you didn't exist to your father for the six years he left you to live with his family in Pakistan and you didn't exist when he made the decision to get you married the first time and then the second time without doing proper due diligence on your hubby and you still don't exist if he's ignoring your concerns and won't talk to your hubby to address your concerns.
So, you've got a choice - you can continue with a marriage to make your father happy or you can take control of your life and make yourself happy. There is a time in our lives to be selfless and think of others first and there's time in our life to think about ourself and our future. Not that I promote nafarmabardari, but I think it's your time now.