Thanks redvelvet maybe thats what i really needed someone to tell me to be strong and just to wake up! My biggest mistake was to say yes and I admit that but I still have time to fix it.......... *the rest Im leaving to Allah and I hope I have the courage to do this....
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They say, "Allah helps those who help themselves." We're advised to take action. So....that said......do as MUCH as you can to get yourself out of this situation. Take out a sheet of paper and write down the steps that YOU need to take. For example......if you are CERTAIN that you don't want to stay married........then make a firm decision that you will not be swayed by your dad and chachu's words/persuasions/emotional blackmails/threats. In fact, that could be one of your steps. Another step could be to research the process of female initiated divorce (known as Khula) in Islam. Write down the steps of this process. Another step could be for you to find a job if you don't have one already. That way you'll be able to support yourself financially.
Just make a list of steps....go through them....check them off as you complete them. And slowly but surely......you'll see your ownself taking control of your life.........liberating yourself from a potentially posionous life........and making things happen. What I've learned from experience is that when you tackle things that you never thought you could handle.........you come out of that experience a stronger and smarter person. Do it for you :)