Re: should I just confront her?
I know you’re hurting but you’ve got a husband and a child. It’s easier said then done but you should just let it go. There’s more important things in life than trying to make others happy. If your parents don’t want you in their life, there’s no point fighting something that just causes you pain, and I know letting go is hard. We all want our parents around, to be proud of us, to be safe and to enjoy however long we have left in this world together. Reality is not all of us get that happy ending. As for your friend, she obviously isn’t a friend. I wouldn’t give her the time of day to be honest with you. Unless she demands to know why you’re ignoring her from this point forward, I would just consider her a fart in the wind and get on with looking after the family that love you.
I also agree with @sweefs and @pak2015. There’s no real such thing as “friends”. They all betray you sooner or later, and most of them are just sticking around with you for their own interests. It’s rare to find a friend who’ll always have your back.