Re: Should I go back to my husband?
Uhhh…a man who lives off of his parents needs to have a backup plan because mommy and daddy wont be around forever.
He CAN get married again. He CAN go to Pakistan and find a girl who either really really really wants to be married for the sake of marriage or wants to come to the UK. But guess who will have to do ALL of the work there? Him. He aint ready for that. So, the best option for him is to salvage his marriage and keep some means of survival open for himself. Also, lets not forget the kids…he might be depending on them to be his 401K.
I dont hate village people and I dont necessarily mean Pakistani villagers. I mean backward/country/hillbillies (hillbillies are not desi if that makes you feel better).
Yeah, I disagree with it. I disagree with anyone that says a woman should stay in a bad marriage for any reason whatsoever. I’ve seen women stay in bad marriages for the sake of their children and guess who had to pay the price at the end? The kids…the bitterness those children have in their hearts for their fathers is real. And ALL those people who kept telling the mother to stick it out are NOT the ones helping these children heal. It does NO ONE any good - contrary to popular belief.
Its so easy for people to condemn a woman to a life with someone she does not want because she has kids with him. Like it was only her having them and he was just an innocent bystander who got caught in the process so now she has to pay for it.
Try living a life like that first before saying things like “you have children now and blah blah blah” I don think anyone realizes exactly what a woman WITH kids goes through in a bad marriage. The guilt, the second guessing, the fear of the consequences for the kids, etc.
Who knows this better than a mother herself?