Should I go back to my husband?

[Mirch]

Re: Should I go back to my husband?

@HEERANJHA

Once I have filed for divorce, I will have to prepare for the backlash from him because that in itself will present new problems. He will refuse to see the kids just to spite me.

My two oldest are old enough to want to live with me, the youngest two are too young but any sane court can see that I am best equipped to look after my children, not him. I can give them a better quality of life because he doesn’t care about their homework, he does not know about any of their likes and dislikes etc. He can’t even look after himself let alone four young kids. In any event, he will shirk from his responsibilities as even I have seen him getting impatient with minding them for a few hours.

In terms of any court action, I am still waiting for legal aid as I do not have nay money to hire a solicitor to fight my case. I have been to the Citizens Advice Bureau but they are unable to help as they too do not have the funds. Everything here is getting cut backs and there seems to no money in the pot for these actions. My only option now is that I put my name on the waiting list for legal aid as and when a solicitor gets news of some available funds.

You do not need to file for divorce , let him do that. He is the one who is looking for women who can fulfill his “wifely needs” as you said in an earlier post. That way you will not be blamed for the divorce if it happens if he files for it. You treat him same as you do now even if he files for divorce and let him know that you will not make a big deal out of it if he files for a divorce. He is one who is giving ultimatums not you , right ?