Should I go back to my husband?

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Re: Should I go back to my husband?

@diwana

**You have no respect for him. **

I lost all respect for him when he verbally abused members of my family and continuously bad mouthed me to everyone he would see and blame me for the split. I also lost respect for him when he continues sponging off his parents.

He is the father of your four kids.

Don’t know the reason of separation but it seems you took a long time to do that which was inappropriate based on the time you spent with him.

**Both of you are responsible in putting kids in this mess.

**Yes but now I am secure in a better environment and my kids want for nothing. I am now trying to do whats best for them.

**Your best time to think of this was before separation or before having four kids.

No, you are wrong. Before having the kids, things were bearable and I honestly thought things could change. I tried to make it work for the kids sake.
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He still can remarry. You may not be able to. Truth hurts. And I don’t really care. I’m happy on my own.

He still can see his kids. You should never and cannot stop him from that. From day 1 I have never, ever denied him access, they are his kids too and should be 50% responsible for their welfare.

Divorce him since I see you two have no bright future based on your posts. A lot of water has been under the bridge and it would take a monstrous efforts to overcome the bitterness and you are not prepared or ready for it.

Now, if you are to mellow down and begin first at least respecting him as husband and father of your kids, even without loving, then go back to him.

Love is over-rated.

Focus on love of your kids, their future and well being…basically kill your ego forever for them. That brought at least some problem in the past I suspect.

Life alone with four growing kids is not that easy for single mothers. Especially with girl(s).

Good luck.

There are some points that I have omitted as they are too personal to put on the main boards.