Re: Should I go back to my husband?
When the kids know their dad is visiting they do excited to seeing him again especially my son as he is the only boy and he’s very close to his dad. They are also happy having time with him at MIL’s house because there are no boundaries there, they pretty much do what they want and he lets them. At home it is a different matter. I don’t let them get away with murder so there are two sets of rules in place. I’m not very happy about that but as long as it’s not really bad behaviour as he does discipline them. I can’t tell him how to be with the kids when they’re in his care. I guess that’s why they love going there. Also, as I don’t drive and he does, they get to go to their cousins house (from his side) which I’m very happy and understanding of. They do need to keep that cousin rishta open etc. I am not able to take all four kids on public transport whenever they want so they are happy being there.
I do think the kids want us reunited but at the same time they also feel that if he moved back in, then his role would change and he won’t be the ‘fun dad’ he was when we were seperated (if that makes sense) If I lay down the law, he’ll have to agree with me and uphold what I say and the kids may not like that. They are close to both sets of grandparents and visit as often as they can. And yes, they do remember our fights and quarrels.