Re: Should i forget and talk to him?
Ask him…“Aik ghar ka basna sirf jewelry par depend karta hai? Tum yeh kehna chahtay ho k agar jewelry tumhari Maa ko na di jaaye…to hamari shadi toot jaayegi…ghar nahi basay ga…sirf is baat par? Mujhay FORCE karna k main tumhay apnay parents ki di hui jewelry doon…yeh ghalat hai/gunnah hai. Jo jewelry mujhay parents ne di hai…jo k meri hai…woh main apnay paas rakhoon ya meray parents rakhay…there is no gunnah in that. But tumhara yeh force karna is a gunnah” I dunno…put it on him and make him feel guilty and silly.
I thought that Islamically …what you receive as a gift was yours to keep. And if you compromise by letting his mother keep what she’s given you…that should be enough…otherwise you’re not even required to do that…it’s a gift and the recipient has more of the right to keep it.
Set your boundaries. Aur agar woh is topic ko phir chairay…to just tell him that mainay bata diya hai k meray parents khud chahtain k un ki di hui jewelry unhi k paas rahay. Tumhari Maa chahay…to jo zevar unhon ne mujhay diya hai…woh apnay paas rakh lain. Main is topic k ab nahin discuss chahati. Tumhay agar abhi masla hai…to tum jaa kar meray parents se discuss kar saktay ho." Don’t even argue with him about the matter with him anymore if he brings it up. Just walk away from him.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he and his mother never approach your parents about the jewelry. They’re hoping that they will pressure you to the point that you will give up and do as they wish. If their intentions are clean…then let them approach your parents. If they dont…