Should I feel insecure?

[garamasala]

Re: Should I feel insecure?

@BusyBee

Yes, they’re “older” than us and many but they’re not “old”. People 10 yrs older than my MIL and FIL are working hard still! My FIL stopped working at 49. My Dad is the same age as my FIL, I don’t think he’ll stop working anytime soon and my FIL is much much much healthier than my dad. Both MIL and FIL are very active, more than me! I’m not denying to help or let them stay with me, I just wanna do it in a dignified manner!

And I didn’t understand your question about affording two houses and other “things”. Like I said before, I don’t care about things. It’s just every little thing hurts when you’re degraded in your own husband’s house!!

Busy Bee, I was agreeing with you! The first line was a quote from Hakuna Matata (with whom I was disagreeing). In a country (I’m assuming your in the US or UK) where the average lifespan is ~75 for men and ~80 for women it is not sustainable for people to retire at 48 unless they are quite wealthy which is not the case here. When you and husband are 48 you won’t be able to retire because you will likely have to work to support yourself, any children you may have and your in-laws. Even if you had a child ASAP, he/she would only be 18 and unlikely to be able to support you when you turned 48.

If the debts are accrued while you are married then you MAY also responsible for them! I know you don’t care about things. I am suggesting that you protect yourself financially.