Hello Behna 
Hope u r good and everyone too on ur side…
This is my first time posting in L&R 
I just read ur msg… I hope I am not wrong if I say ur problems and feelings too 
There are several topics and I nearly covered them all I guess.. so here we go
First of all… to decrese ur tension/stress about insecurity… A good man never let his family go away easily and you are a bid part of it… I am a boy.. so I can tell you better about a male feeling… in ur msg… I saw a responsible person who is sticking around his family and is successful to keep the wholeeeeeeeee family at one place…
Secondly… 48-54 years old parents ?? Didi r u kidding me ?? kya hogaya hai aapko ?? they are not old ?? 
I just …
they ARE OLD my sweet sister… aur kis umer me wo burhe honge ??? 70 ?? 80 ??
plzzzzz zara sochein…
thirdly… do u still have that energy and power and activeness that u had years back ?? I guess NO… burhapa aaraha hai…
fourthly… just put urself at ur MIL’s place
ab btayeey "Aapka beta thik ker raha hai ya phir baad me thik karega jab aapko chor dega ?? "
wo bhi aik MAA hai… aik BAAP hai
aur aik BETA bhi hai…
ahhhhhhhh!!!
kal kisne dekha hai ??? 
mene ?? aapne ?? obama ne ?? shahrukh khan ne ?? kisi gali ke footpath pe sote huye bhikari ne ???
Just once accept ur ILs as ur family… and erase this IL word from ur dictionary…
and then feel it… and 1 thing more… when INSHALLAH u will have Son,. and he grows up then got married… dont u want a nice daughter or u want a DIL ?? :d :d
lekin wohi baat… kal kisne dekha hai… Maybe ur Hubby finds a job greater than all of ur expectation (Aameen)
acha leave it… aik mard hone ki hasiyat se bta raha hoon believe me… every single MAN cares about his whole family so so much basharte ke uski tarbiat and character acha ho
and ur Hubby is among good people…
acha on the other hand… in a long run… u r going to be the queen and future is urs.. MARK THESE WORDS 
ohhh parents ko importance … kya nahi dein wo ?? it is necessary… sach mein… I am not including ISLAM or anything.. just saying generally… coz every single mind/person have different thoughts and believes 
by the way.. still dont have kids ??
why ?? MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU WITH BEST AND IDEAL CHILDREN (AMEN)
^ this will also make ur hubby letting his shoulders down… @ Children
oiiiiiiiii
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm means ur hubby is little kanjoos :=D sorryyyyyyyyyyyyy (giggle)
hmmmmm… u can make him realize… as u sticks near him more than anyone so u can find a way though 
khair my sweet Siso… this jewelry doesnt worth a relation..
I am ur brother and a true well wisher… I Swear ALLAH … u r meri behna… and aik Bhai apni behan ko khush dekhna chahta hai 
plz thoooooora sa calm ho jayein..
infact just take a little break… let all these things slip away from ur mind
GO FIND SOMETHING ENTERTAINING & AMUSING… why u people think all time about this… kya aap is liye paida hui hein ?? HAYE ALLAH … kese samjhaun… these are not the matters… zindagi to itni khush-gawar honi chahiyeey ke choti moti baat kya bara bara mushkil waqt bhi hans ke guzarna chahiyeey meri Bajiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii…
dafa karein in cheezon ko… mein aapke sath hoon… and mujhe acha nahi laga ke he said fazool kharch
meri Didi ko mere BIL kehte to nai acha lagta… per per per per per
u can make him realize… do something… afterall no one is perfect… kya samjhe 
not me not aap no no no one 
but life me compensation bohottttttttttt zaruri hai… everyone have khamiyan/lkamzoriyan
ignore him..
1 day meri behna u will realize ke he Loves you and Care ALOT about u… and even wo kerte hein per mard kabhi bhi zahir nahi kerta… thore sakht hote hein naa 
but advice ye hai ke unko btayein politely ke aapko unki baat achi nahi lagi.. keh dein naa unko… hamesha misunderstanding ki waja se kaam kharab hota hai…
go and say it to him… shayed chabi ghoom jaye and unke dimagh ki batti roshan ho jaye… nahi to sabar karein… sabar ka phal meetha hota hai…
coming back to the forum…
I dont agree with anyone except saggirl and queen24…
both answered well… on the other hand… other’s replies are wayyy far off politeness…
this can break relation…
relation baar baar nahi bante… insan khud apni taqdeer likhta hai…
koi aur uska zimedar nahi…
I saw a bit rudeness and disloyalty.. though whatever the situation is… he is ur hubby… unka kasoor nahi hai yeee to unke parents ka kasoor hai 
and NOTE it keh…
is umer me brain ki performance kam ho jati hai…insaan bacha ban jata hai…jaldi rash ho jata hai… jiski waja hai blood circulate nahi hota…and log isko aik bohot bura word dete hein ke “Sathya” gaye hein…
guess what :d ye waqt kehne walo aur sun’ne walo pe bhi aana hai… (giggling)
han but… it is sad to hear about hamara haq and this type of things… this is against humanity.. poor or gross language…
this is typically of a sick mind not of a old(wise) one… they should be taught a lesson… u must ask them.. to stop this…ye to mujhe bhi chubhi and mehsoos hui hai baat : :@
buttttttttt isme pareshan hone wali konsi baat hai ??? agar koi mentally unstable or evil hai to u r blessed ke u can read their minds and plans…
and agar wo ghalat hein then ask them to stop this… unse kahein ke ye thik nahi hai… claim it.. ask ur hubby to forbid them annoying you…
gadha bhi akhir samajh hi jata hai chahe danda hi kyun naa khaaye…
wo kehte hein naa laaton ke bhoot baaton se nahi mante…
though it will be difficult for a good man to talk infront of them butttttt Boost him to do this…
it totally depends on you if u can manage to do this or not…
kisi ne aa ker madad nahi kerni…
aik kahawat hai bohot zabardast…
“bewkoof dost se dana dushman behtar hai…”
kisi ki baaton me mat aayeey..or it will only get worse… khud sochiyeey…
aisi baatein to kuch gharon me hoti hein,farq sirf itna hai ke they are ur ILs
they must and u too realize this…
but agr log aapko bharkaeinge to it will only help to break ur relation veryyy easliy…
they best thing we should do is to entertain you…
and above all… Pray for You… 
1 thing more…can you become the Heroin/Princess to change the fate of this house ??
can u accept this house as ur own and fix it ??
bohot se log sirf baaton se apna kaam nikaal lete hein…
dont waste ur time Didi…
mein apka bhai hoon and mene general baatein likhi hein
coz log ISLAM ki baat ker rahe hein (giggling)
agar ISLAM ki rooh se baat kerta to kafi sari baat apko talakh mehsoos hotein sabke liye"
aur mujhe ye pasand nahi afterall I am ur brother.. and I know meri Sis samajh sakti hein mujhe..
but ye aapka farz hai ke aap sochein baith ker ke mene ye kyun likha “ISLAM ki rooh se baat kerta to kafi sari baat apko talakh mehsoos hotein sabke liye”
agar ye samajh aajaye to sari tension khatam :d mauj karein phir
acha Behna kya aap namaz parhti hein and har haal me ALLAH PAAK ka shuker ada kerti hein ??
sabke liye dua karein.. sabke liye…
apne liye bohot karein… hum sab bhi aapke liye Dua kerte hein ke ALLAH kare apki aur hamari duaein qabol ho jayein and aapki aur hum sabki mushkilaat door ho jayein..(Aameen)
once more time saying this ke… insan khod zimedar hota hai… this way or that.. and aapne nikaah me qabool hai kaha tha to isi liye apko moqa diya gaya tha…you committed it…
now donot panic… Life is a name of compensation and give’n’take…
aray ye to bohot nafees rishta hai jisko log apni bharaas,na-aqli and bad temper ki waja se kharab ker dete hein
meri apni aik soch hai keh “Duniya me 6 arab log hein to 6 arab rang bhi hein duniya ke”… matlab ye aik choti baat hai…
dekhein un logo ko jinki shaadi hui hui hai and unko 2 waqt ki roti nahi naseeb… but wo larte phir bhi nahi…
PAAK ZAAT ka shuker adaa karein, insan kuch nahi hai.. kal insaan paida hota hai aj khatam.. 1 day everyone have to leave this place…
mitti se mitti ho jana hai…
Mene husbands ko apni wives ko duaein dete huye dekha hai… hala ke rarely aisa hota hai shaadi ke baad..
ye aik serious matter hai coz I can feel the things…
BE BEST AND IDEAL WIFE… DAUGHTER & MOTHER…
Note:- If anybody is hurt then I apologize… do not be offensive coz I dont wanna hurt any body… but I can be happen unintentionally or by mistake..
Thank You…