Should I feel insecure?

[BusyBee]

Re: Should I feel insecure?

@Ghost14

1. Get a job. It doesn’t matter what kind of ruckus your MIL causes, you’re an adult and you can do what you want. You need to explain to your husband that your MIL is capable of some housework while you’re out.

2. You need to set boundaries. Tell your husband that you don’t appreciate being “escorted” every time you go out.

3. Whenever she starts crying and screaming, and using the quran, tell her a) it demeans the religion to bring it up every time you guys have an issue and b) whether she could educate you about what a wife’s rights. If she plays dumb, be sure that you know exactly what your rights are.

I want to get a job and hubby even says yes at times but then he says rehne do ammi abbu won’t like it. MIL will not even touch a cup if I work, I know that for sure. From what I know she’ll have more work for me when I come back from work. Hubby already keeps saying ammi is old (48 is old?) and she can’t work and all that. She will make me lose if we had a running competition masha’Allah, she’s very active and healthy but not in the house-work.
About being escorted, I have told hubby. He just tells me it’s ok, ammi ka dil behal jayega thora le jaao. If it’s a Dr.'s appt, then sometimes he tells her ammi rehne den to which she insists a lot, causes drama, and in the end has her way and comes along! So now, I have learnt to make my dr. appointments around the time when she has her dars so she won’t go!
When she starts all that drama with crying, bringing out quran, hadeeth, I just leave the room. I really don’t have that much energy to go thru all that, seriously. I just get busy in the kitchen or go to the bathroom and cry!