Re: Should I feel insecure?
My MIL treats her other sons fine, she treats my husband fine too but it’s only bcoz of me that she causes the drama. She doesn’t cause any drama in the other son’s house. She loves her other DIL bcoz she chose her from within the family. The other DIL is on MILs side and barely communicates with me. Only one brother is married. The unmarried one travels for work but his base is our house. Like when he’s off of traveling, he’s here bcoz his parents are here too.
Yes, there are many people who don't have a good relation with my MIL. Unfortunately, they're mostly in Pakistan. Her own brothers/bhabi don't talk to her much. No one, I mean NOT EVEN A SINGLE PERSON talks to her from her in-laws. Her SIL (my husband's phupho) lives in the states but has never been to our house, my husband doesn't even know his cousins!! So if my husband doesn't have a relation with them, I certainly can't talk to them. I met his phupho at a wedding (it was out of no where) but she didn't talk to me much bcoz she prob thought I'm like my MIL or on her side. It was just random. Of course she doesn't know how MIL treats me. Also, my husbands chacha/taaya all visit U.S due to something or the other, meet my FIL outside somewhere, don't come to the house, ever! They prefer staying over at other relatives' or friends' house. In the community however, MIL is known as a saint. She does dars-e-quran, wears full time burqa, always talks about islam and politely, so one would think 100 times before they think anything of her! She's a very chalaak woman. She acts all innocent and talks about how dunya mein kya rakha hai, aakhirat sahi ho blah blah blah......which boils my blood even more when she says stuff like this bcoz she's the total opposite at home!