Should I feel insecure?

[BusyBee]

Re: Should I feel insecure?

@Ghost14

“I don’t even care about material things, it only hurts emotionally that I’m being treated like dirt and he’s letting them take advantage!”

You need to tell him this. A lot of what you’re saying on here, you need to explain to him in a **calm, controlled, unemotional **manner. If he asks you what you want besides being fed and clothed, tell him you would like some input regarding your future. Ask him what he would choose if it comes to “ma baap ka haq” vs saving for your child’s education. There is a limit to how much he should have to take care of his parents.

I mean that: discuss with him, away from his parents, whether it’s reasonable of them to ask him to take care of their needs when they are capable of working. Ask him why is brothers can’t contribute.

I have told him this manyyyy times. He says he’s the eldest and in his family eldest have responsibility. I have had a heart to heart with him. During the convo, he listens, hugs, tells me everything will be ok, but later same thing, nothing changes. And if I bring it up later he just flips or leaves the room. And about children, he doesn’t even let me bring the “children card”…he says “jab kids honge phir kids ke baare mein baat karna”.