Should I feel insecure?

[BusyBee]

Re: Should I feel insecure?

@flawedsoul

What will they do if you decide to work? Yell? Taunt you? Let them. Tell your husband that if he can’t buy you things that you want/need, then you WILL need to start providing for yourself. This is ridiculous. How can they control you like this? Did you always know that your husband was never going to let you work? Can you not sit and talk to him and say whatever you’re saying here? Maybe he doesn’t understand what you’re going through and you need to actually spell it out for him? And if he knows all this and still doesn’t care…well, then you should leave him for your own good, just like he’ll leave you for his family.

I don’t understand some men. He went against his parents’ wishes and got married. Now why the sudden love for parents but disregard for the wife?

He actually takes more advantage of the fact that he married me against their wishes. He says maine unka dil dukhaya hai so I have to give them extra in everything. Well, he’s been saying that since we got married. And I agreed with him in the beginning and said yeah, we should do extra for them so they forgive us and love me blah blah blah. But this is what all that lead to…them taking extra advantage to humiliate me. Hubby said he’ll let me work before we got married. Even now he says “up to you” but MIL says “hamare ghar ki larkiyan nahi kaam karti. ghar ka khayal kaun rakhega and stuff”. I think they’re more concerned about the fact that I won’t be there to serve them 24/7 like I do now. Ghar ka khayal to them means doing everything for them!
I have talked to him many times. He just tells me to be patient bcoz Allah will give me sawab for this. He says women have to adjust and all that stuff. I’m sick of hearing this answer now. Yes, I used to think that way too but now it’s getting old and it’s draining me mentally.