My MIL is in america since past 4 months, she will be spending her eid there as well. My FIL and brother in law are also goin to america in ramadan and might spend eid there. its not confirmed yet. so it will be my fiance alone in pakistan.
should i expect eidi and clothes?
last year my MIL took me shopping for eid clothes she did not give me like traditional MIL’s give stitched clothes but told me to go with her and choose what i like. and gave me eidi too..
so what about this year?
my sisters continuously telling me that her MIL will bring her jora and etc so i dont know. should i be expecting or its wrong of me to expect??
If your MIL has been away for 4 months, then I doubt she bought you clothes. She might tell your FIL or another relative to buy something for you. But it really depends on whether you're still with your fiance... in your last thread you said you wanted to break your engagement and your fiance wanted time off from the relationship.
i'm sorry but isnt that a bit childish. i mean your worried about whether or not your going to get a suit for eid. c'mon, lifes not all about taking y'know. eid is all about family and feeling lucky that you have food to eat and a roof over your head. worried whether or not your going to get eidi or not is just uncalled for.
why the hostile treatment? there have been millions of silly/lame/unbelieavle discussions on this forum literally abt everything.. so y dont u girls just respond to this one aswell :P
Crazy fool: how are u doing now? better? i do think u will get eidi in whatever form that is, but y wud u expect that... its something extra...
btw how can ur MIL be in america for past 4 months, when u were just talking abt ur inlaws few weeks ago... maybe i wasnt paying attention...
Generally speaking, I think that women are better at this sort of thing (deciding what gifts to give and how to give them). Men can be clueless about this kinda stuff....cuz they're usually not involved in the shopping of clothes/jewelry for women.
You're lucky that your MIL took you shopping last year and let YOU decide what you wanted her to buy you. Some MILS don't even give a choice. She seems like a very caring and considerate woman.
It is possible that (THIS YEAR) your MIL might tell her son (your fiance) how to handle the Eidi for you. OR.........it's also possible that she may give you Eidi after she comes back from the US. OR......she might even get so busy with her vacation that she could possibly forget about the Eidi. Forgetting is human nature...happens to the best of us.
It's not even Ramzan yet.....and you are ALREADY starting to think about the Eidi. Why? Eid ka matlab sirf tofay milna to nahin hai. Eid is also about getting past your grudges......forgiving people..........logon ko khushi se milna.....and spending time with family and friends.
I doubt that your fiance is thinking to himself..."Oh ho..is saal mujhay Eidy main Crazy Fool kya de gi?"
^^So please......be mature if you don't receive any Eidy this year. Don't make a big deal out of it.....like you did with the "computer system" comment. Last time you posted, you said that your fiance wanted to take a "break" from you. Keeping this in mind...who knows if you'll get Eidy this year. Also...if your Fiance has moved on from the last argument....don't make a big deal about the Eidy....otherwise you might risk destroying the rishta altogether (if that's not what you want).
Rather than wondering IF YOU will get Eidy this year.........I think it's better to focus more on how to improve your relationship with your fiance and in-laws. My apologies if this sounds harsh...but based on your last thread....consider it tough love.
