i pay zakat, i have 40 tola gold. but no income. husband says qurbani i should do qurbani; i dnt think i can afford it. he says a molvi told him i should do it as i have over the nisab amount gold.
also my parentsd gave me some money, so am using it from that., but they gave it for a specefic purpose- not qurbani…but he says money is money and u can use for qurbani..
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also its hissa we are puting, not whole qurbani, so my part is 13000 rupeess…
also im feeling guilty, im sure i can afford 13000 rupees anyway, i can buy suits fr around 3000 rupees for no real reason at a time and buy cosmetic items at 2000 issue.....so surely i can do qurbani and get sawaab, however i feel stingy and just annoyed that my husband says i must do it...seeing as im not even that religious maybe thas why...
last night, i was thinking if nadz gave 100 rupees to her maid, she would at least help nadz in chores plus jhuk jhuk kay salam and no use of pashto swear words.
Nadz, I have more than 80 tola gold too but all of it was given to me by my parents, relatives and inlaws at the wedding/on birthdays etc. I don't have an income either and am a housewife, so my husband is doing qurbani on my behalf ever since we got married. In our families, once a girl is married she is her husbands responsibility, and as a couple, everything is joint- Allah na karey but if ever any financial crisis arises and my husband needs my jewelry for anything, obviously im not going to refuse him because he is the one who got me all that anyway...so i think your husband should do qurbani for you and himself - not your parents, and also the money you have has been given by your parents, though i think even for personal shopping and stuff, your husband is supposed to care for your needs and is financially responsible for you completely as you are his responsibility now, not your parents (although I know in our society, parents can never stop themselves from doing anything for their kids)
at the time, i had that money in my wardrobe, and husband had no money of his own, so he would have had to go bank and his dad wanted the money as he was going to buy it and needed it nthere and then. my husband isnt stingy in that sense, so please refrain from why doesnt ur husband pay it etc comments.....he will give it back.
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I don't know if this is a tradition or what but in my family the women do stuff to earn the money to be used for their zakat, qurbani and hajj. Although they don't have careers or even steady jobs, they do things like sewing or handicrafts or catering etc to earn the required funds.
hes earning very little, we live in a big house etc and are only well off because of his parents. his own wages are minimal so he in essence cannot afford qurbani either, yet he wants o.
should i applaud this? it snot like he deprives me of money.
If you have enough wealth/gold that you are eligible to pay Zakat on, then, Qurbani is Farz on you. It does not matter if the gold was a gift from parents, friends, peer, faqeer, dhobhi etc. etc. A person owns the gifts once given purely Islamically speaking.
There is no running away or excuse from it. If you do not have money to buy, you need to sell enough of your gold of the amount you need. Husband can pay for your Qurbani but can not be hold responsible if he denies. He has the whole right to deny the payment. What he can not deny is your household and financial support to run the house.
