I got married last year in february.me and my husband both decided on trying for a baby after one year or so…now its been two months that i have been asking my hubby that i want baby now.but the problem is that since i asked my husband for this, he does not co-operate with me.i agree that he is extremely busy (as he says) but in the last two months it was just one time that we actually tried for that.i asked him y dun u co-operate with me?dont u want a baby? and he always says,“i want it but wait for a few days,let me be free, bla bla”..sometimes he says i am busy and i don’t feel like doing s**.and its true,he is busy but not taking out a little time for me,does that make sense?then this month,during my ovulation days he had fever and flu,so he said “i am ill and i cant make up my mind right now”. i am worried,really worried.Many things wander in my mind.what do u people suggest? what should i do?Should i understand that these are not excuses and he is really stuck?should i wait for one more month so that he gets free?Please give me sincere advice.thanks.
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it doesn't take THAT much time... does it?
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^ Lol!
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oh em gee…he doesn’t have time for 'it!" 
yeah, you should be worried…not about his busy schedule but you for something else and you know what i mean! 
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wow how can you make such a pleasurable thing into a chore :P
you should both be enjoying it and not doing it for a baby
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Yes you should be worried
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aaarrrrghgh....I don't think anyone would want to have sex if you pressurize them into making babies. I feel sorry for your husband.
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while reading ur post I thought oh it’s my story, all u need to do is relax down a bit, im trying for last 6 months as well and my husband is exactly workaholic as yours, we hardly get anytime or chance for romantic side of our marriage. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with ur husband or u should worried about other things. Infact stress reduce a chances to conceive. you should not ask for it, just make him come to you, seduce him. Seriously don’t think about it too much and other advice is to better don’t rely on ovulation test as it could be very stressful either way, even if they they turn out positive, you get in the pressure that you have to have intercoarse, just make it casual and fun, also do lots of dua to Allah swt. 
. All the best! x
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Your husband does not cooperate or rather, copulate with you?
Be afraid. Very afraid.
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Maybe he is not ready for it? It is okay for you to say you want one but maybe he has reasons for being reluctant. He could be stressed with work or about the future. Men don't usually want to admit when they are having a tough time.
Stress might also be affecting his libido.
Why not just start with trying to make his time at home a relaxing experience?
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There is nothing wrong here. Like the poster above mentioned, try to make your home a relaxing environment and just try to lighten things up at home.
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ur post really made me feel so good and relaxed..so i am not alone here..thanks for the words…and yes i think i should not impose this thing on myself or my hubby..
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and this needed to be asked here too...........i am like..sad........
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and this needed to be asked here too...........i am like..sad........
sad abt what?
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You can try all you want and still end up having a baby much later than you wanted. It's from Allah...you'll have kids when it's meant to be. But if you keep nagging him like this....you're going to turn him off to you...and i think you've already done that. Like Stoppit said...maybe his libido is being affected by stress at work, or doubts about starting a family, or simply annoyance with you. I've heard that the pressure of trying for a baby can take the joy out of sex. I hope there are not other serious issues behind his lack of interest. But..I think that he's more likely to draw closer to you if you stop pressuring him like a little kid. You're not ancient...your eggs have not died out. If nagging him isn't producing results...try backing off.
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Ask him softly if maybe he wants to wait a bit more before having kids.
Maybe he just agreed with you on the kids, while not really wanting to have any now.
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I think you need to relax and let him relax.
You're making this too stressful of a thing for him...its supposed to be enjoyable and its not right now. The other thing is...when you take out the fun of it...I don't know anyone who'd be able to get in the mood.
Its not a button...you don't just turn him on or off.
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maybe he's not ready
or maybe it's feeling too much like a chore. keep it about romance and attraction and not about making a baby.
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Try not making it out to be a task or just a baby making exercise.
Have fun, enjoy yourselves... make him feel wanted rather than just a "donor" for the baby...
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He is gay.