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Its a lahore thing. Ask Madhanee and Roman, they are always checking each others virginity.
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Roman that was nice try. We do not want to learn about your deviant behavior.
funguy I think your approach is great and I'd prolly do the same but [hypothetically speaking] if you find out something later are you going to blame her for keeping it from you deliberately or non deliberately and being dishonest with you? Coz she might not have kept it from you deliberately with the intention to be dishonest with you but maybe she never told you coz you never asked and she thought you wanted to bury the past and she also did not want to bring up unpleasant things.
If you tell her, good for you, its a good thing to do, a good person would, but its certainly not mandatory for her to do the same, as in you can't expect her to do the same. Her silence leading to your assuming that her past is clean is not justified imho.
MQ you're right maybe some sins should be left alone. And one should not publicise their sins...Definitely. You're 100% correct. But, if someone asks you something you can't lie either. You can choose not to answer though and that's your right but lying is wrong.
M if you're doing something then face the music and stand by your action or give it up. Atleast don't lie and say you didn't do it! I'm not saying publicise it, all I'm saying is don't be a hypocrite and act like you're Mr. Perfect Good Clean and then be doing something else in your private life. If you think its that bad that it should be hidden from the world then why do it? I do such things too, I do things too which I want no one to know about, but I think I should stop doing them not continue doing them! If there is something that is going to shock your parents and hurt them to the hilt why do it or make it a habit? if you've done it once and regret it OK that's understandable but to follow a lifestyle that your parents would not approve of is definitely wrong.
Mehnaz The right thing needs to be done whether the consequences are harsh or not...
Thanks everyone for the comments, I’m too tired to reply to each and everyone of you but, I’ll certainly do that later. The way things are going these days, I guess I shouldn’t be surprised to such questions. Everyday I experience, hear, see worst things than this, I could post a thread everyday in life1. But I wouldn’t let all of you suffer 
Good Night 
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mahnoor hey what u doing up so late yaar?
hmmm one more point i wana add here, which actually shudve been the first thing i shudve said, and which im surprised nobody has mentioned here yet is like spose u make a close friend even of the same gender…as soon as u start getting close to that friend, if u r unmarried one of the main issues u guys share * u always share things like whether u like someone, have liked someone seriously in the past etc. u never keep this kinda info from a close friend its considered a betrayal in friendship and id be kinda hurt if my close friend liked someone n i dint even know. like its one of the main things of ur life right. so maybe the fact that he asked her that was from that point of view coz he wanted to get to know her better. ofcourse the question was a bit more intense than that but maybe he just asked that question to get to know her better and not as information to pivot his decision on? i dono 
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Another questions which seems to be getting more and more frequently asked is about using birth control! AT what point in a relationship is it okay to ask such a question?
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nothing at all can be hidden from them and no matter what parents always forgive their child.
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irem, after having had several conversations with older parents (many of them senior citizens ( non-desi)), I have come to realize that there are many parents who DO NOT forgive their children for different reasons. It is surprising, but its true. There have been times I wanted to suggest to them to forgive their child for whatever it was they refused to forgive them about, but I felt I had no right to say that.
Irem, Its not easy to tell your parents, unless you follow really libreal laws at home.
how will you tell ur parents ???? at dinner ????how ????At what age???
Hey Ammi Abbu! guess what? i had jigi jigi last night ???
Specailly in a society where even reference to sex is very taboo you are trying to achive the most impossible.
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Another questions which seems to be getting more and more frequently asked is about using birth control! AT what point in a relationship is it okay to ask such a question?
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Well this should be when the couple know each other well enough.I mean it is a rather important question that needs to be settled before the marriage. Interesting question, you have me thinking now.Or what if one of them wants kids right away in the marriage- while the other wishes to wait?
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Another questions which seems to be getting more and more frequently asked is about using birth control! AT what point in a relationship is it okay to ask such a question?
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When you are ready to begin getting intimate.
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Another questions which seems to be getting more and more frequently asked is about using birth control! AT what point in a relationship is it okay to ask such a question?
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Definately before your marriage day.
I think once you get engaged and know each other a bit more.