ZABARDAST ZABARDAST each and every thing explaind 
Why do sum simplistic people keep comin up wit childish replies. Monk you wudnt b sayin dis to my face son, trust me wen i tel u dat n yea im bein a man n takin responsibility for what i got myself into. 99% of the guys wudnt even do half of what im doing for her in dis situation but i dnt expect u to understand or give me ur approval. However, be reasonable if u choose to reply to my post, otherwise go play with urself. dis is what i h8 abt net, sum muppets get away with bein rude!
Try me!
Now I did go through your other posts that what I found out.
1-you are polite that's way you are not saying "she is paindo" "I am so westernized" "she is un-parh"
Things is newly married dude never thinks about those things its you family speaking in you!!!
You uncle calling you about your wife????????????? are you F-in kidding me. All men in your family are like that???? what women do???
I feel sorry for sister who married in family of spineless men!!!!!!!!!!
You are just an extension of you uncles or phophoo or khala or some thing.
I see you 20 years from now calling your nephew NOT to be nice to her wife because she married some one of outside of the family.
2-Watch out. once this mist clears up. Your wife will be telling you what to do. That what you are trained for.
DUDE the girl who you brought from pak is also some one's "bacha" treat her nicely.
PlayStation: I still cant believe I read this "my uncle called don't be nice to her"
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Monk so you were sayin those things widout readin my post? Now ur views must b valid? im polite n das y im not sayin dis dat....n ur sayin dis bcz? lol joka. Let me make it easier4u. I wont b listenin to a word that you have to say so save ur time n face. Do urself a favour son. Find sum oda hobby instead ov actin like a b1tch on net. U shud go n Try ur mums make up on.
See there you go!!
I made you talk like a man. And a funny one 
I did read your first post before replying for the first time.
Then I see some one agreeing with you So I thought I must have missed some thing so I read again.
Seriously dude. If there is nothing MAJOR wrong with the girl. Don’t do this.
Stop listening to ppl too much. Love her and stuff u know…
Monk so you were sayin those things widout readin my post? Now ur views must b valid? im polite n das y im not sayin dis dat....n ur sayin dis bcz? lol joka. Let me make it easier4u. I wont b listenin to a word that you have to say so save ur time n face. Do urself a favour son. Find sum oda hobby instead ov actin like a b1tch on net. U shud go n Try ur mums make up on.
If this is the way you behave and lose temper so easily, please leave the girl. Pardon the poor soul.
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*chalo sab thanda paani piyo....warna... :ASA: *
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by the sounds of it it would be best if you were not a husband at all:)
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if you read his original post and questions, you would realize that this is actually a very nice man and has the potential to be a really wonderful husband. I give kudos.
start training him.
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GSUK wives or in general women are not animals that men can control. Do not listen to anyone from your family and just be yourself. Act normal. Love your wife but set some ground rules that will facilitate the smooth workings of the family and relationship. Be firm yet supportive and loving. No need to control her or make her feel like a caged animal in a foreign country she probably travelled to for the first time in her life. Thanks much..!
Reading this post reminded me of something someone said one day to me (which left me horrified) ... they said "Don't be nice to your servants, sar par charh jayein gai".
Frankly, I don't understand your point in posting this question on this forum.
If you don't love her... kindly tell her so, instead of keeping her under the illusion that you're in love with her and getting her expectations all high.
Hopefully she will just break this marriage on her own (if she has any brains) and you will be azaad to marry the next girl your parents select for you. Good luck!!
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I still don't get it. He says he is more educated than her. Jesus Christ, how bad is her spelling, then?
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PCG he is using british slang.
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PCG…
this whole business of writing “ov” instead of “of” and “da” instead of “the”, “dis” instead of “this” … all that stuff puts me off… who writes like that? Probably teenagers or people who say “hiiiiii!!! wanna do fraaandship with me” (hopefully GS members know about fraandshippers :p).
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It is prounciation. British people prounounce stuff like that. Even I do not pronounce OF as OF, I pronounce it as OV. Oh and as for who writes like that, in my text messages I always use slang.
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I do understand all that about slang and abreviation but - people listen and realize! It makes you sound and look like you're absolutely illiterate, low class and liking it. Be careful when and where you use that kind of "talk".
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OMG Im just shocked at all the responses here... but i guess i shudnt ive already had dose of some v harsh rude, offending replies to a thread i recently opened. guys, please CHILL!!! all of u r literally jumpin on him. hes confused thaz y he is askin. we all can respectfully give our opinions. some of u guys have been so so rude i cant explain. take a chill guys!!! i dunno why u all r so personal and attackin him like he commited a sin.
GSUK, first things first, please understand girls are girls. all girls are manipulative but paki gals are more and thaz true but then they are also (generally) more social and accomodating as compared to us (no offence to gals in other countries).. its only becus they are used to a certain social lifestyle like other gals like us incld me are used to a more nuclear lifestyle. but i dun understand ur strubborness in sayin u wll not tolerate her talkin bad abt ur parents. well y can u tolerate ur parents tellin u not to talk to her much etc. i get it, they are ur FAMILY but that dusnt mean they have the rite to tell u how to behave with ur own wife for God sake. and if ur own parents can insitage u against her, for their own ulterio motives (of not jellin with the girls family), so can ur wife if she is being treated like crap by ur parents or by u. trust me, we women are not DUMB. we know when ur parents try to make u guys distant from us. we just know it. maybe she is tryin to warn u and instead of u gettin all emotional and rantin u know ur family long enuff to listen to her, emphathise with her and listen to what she is sayin whether her complain is genuine or not. i can tell u personally, i wud never ever say somethin mean or say somethin unnecessary to make my hubs go against his mother. its only when she DOES say and do things that i go abs crazy. so trust me, if she is like me, she wud never make up stories to win ur heart or sympathy. its upto u observe how genuine her complaints are.
last time i heard its not bad for a man to treat his own wife nicely. she is a human being first then ur wife. please dun forget that although u know ur family more than u know her and that u spent more time with them, ultimately ur family is now ur wife also. try to win her heart. talk to her call her frequently. dun b ultra bossy. u cud b firm and assertive in some things but no need to be bossy all the time. either case u marry a paki born or US UK born or watever, u are bound to hear her complaining if ur mom dad do anythin wrong. be ready for that.
and lemme tell u the reason y everyone is so pissed at u and sayin be a man is becus u r being tooo mch of a mommy and family boy. u need to draw a line between family and ur own new family. if this is the beginning of ur new life, i dread to think how u will and ur wife will b able to live with one another. if ur parents r tryin so badly to make distances between u now, imagine how badly they are gonna treat ur wife once she comes home? they will continue fillin ur ears even then. make ur own lil world with her, be happy. let ur parents know that now u r married and u r goin to do all u can do make this marriage work and divorce is the last thing on ur mind.
i think the only reason y ur mom dad are sayin duur raho sar par mat chadhao,,, is becus they in their generation were treated like that by their own husbands. they were treated like pao ki jooti (shoe) as they say in urdu. they are old gneration, use ur own brain and draw conclusions please
all the best!! all my prayers with u.
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uhhhhh
I do understand all that about slang and abreviation but - people listen and realize! It makes you sound and look like you're absolutely illiterate, low class and liking it. Be careful when and where you use that kind of "talk".
this is how ghetto Britain speaks. many children grow up only being able to talk this. and yes, they are proud of it. :/
yeah wlecum to the club. this is common british slang. even i say da for the sometimes and other words also. lets concerntate on what he is sayin pls.