What do you want? Do you want a relationship or do you want to control your wife?
You are her husband and you are also your parents’ son. You cannot take her side and you cannot take your parents’ side. You cannot let her insult your parents and you cannot allow your parents to disrespect her.
She may be chalak and manipulative but she is your wife…never forget that. Your parents may not like her but they are your parents.
Yours is a difficult spot but if you are not careful, you will end up being a part of this saas-bahu war for the rest of your life.
Give her what is due to her: respect, kindness, love, compassion, patience so she may adjust to her new life. However, never let her speak ill of your parents in front of you.
Give your parents what is due to them: respect, kindness, love, compassion and patience in their old age. However, never let them speak ill of your wife in front of you.
It will take some balancing but each side deserves to be treated well by you, regardless of how they feel about each other. And they also deserve to be put in their place if they go at war.
Dont yell at your wife in front of your parents and dont get upset with your parents in front of your wife.